As I mentioned a few days ago, California-based ex Mark (a.k.a Sparky) recently posted a comment here for the first time. Our resulting online exchange and phone conversation got me to thinking about closure and how it’s often a lengthy, multi-step process when it comes to a big love.
Sparky and I hadn’t communicated since June, when work led him to cancel a visit to New York — the day before he was due to arrive. The episode confirmed for me that, though we once shared something special, it was well past time to let go.
Still, given our long history, I couldn’t help wondering — Did he regret standing me up last summer? Had he seen what I’ve written about him here on the blog? It turns out the answer to both questions is yes.
Mark apologized profusely for bailing on his scheduled visit, reiterating the remorse he expressed in his comments.
“I think I made the biggest mistake of my life,” he said.
Eventually, we moved onto other, less complicated subjects.
As we filled each other in about career, life, etc., it occurred to me that Mark and I have finally come full circle. After 15 years, we’re where we’re supposed to be — two people who once shared a great love bonded now by friendship.
No matter how long it takes to get there, closure is always worth the wait.