Last week, I headed down to SoHo for Urban Girl Squad ‘s latest Friend of a Friend singles party. Joining me in the fun at cozy, downstairs speakeasy The Vault at Pfaff’s, my bachelor friend Sachin.
Like the last UGS mixer I went to, this one was well attended (150 people) and the staff did a good job of circulating and making sure everyone was having fun. That said, mingling was a lot harder to do this time because UGS didn’t provide icebreaker questions and answers. Without them, it was harder to tell who was with a friend versus who was mid flirt, and most of the crowd seemed less outgoing.
Many of the guys, in fact, stuck to the all- too-New York trend of avoiding eye contact. Case in point: a tall, cute recruiter whom I smiled at. When I ended up making small talk with cute guy and his friends about this specific tendency, I couldn’t resist calling him out on it.
I also chatted with a pair of much friendlier bachelors — who asked why I’m still single. When I asked them the same question, one said—
“I haven’t been doing anything about it lately.”
It was a different story for my friend Sachin. Sach admitted he’s been going on dates several times a week for awhile now. The result has been either no chemistry or women who end up having a boyfriend or husband.
As we shared our dating woes over some yummy cocktails, I was reminded that – even though it’s easy to think otherwise — it’s not always easier for single guys than it is for us gals. And that being on the prowl is always more fun when you’ve got a good wingman.