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Not Quite Six Degrees of Separation

March 8th, 2012 — 1:15pm

The other day, I found myself talking with a friend about what a small world it is – digitally and otherwise. It got me to thinking the whole six degrees (or less) rule has precipitated some of the most meaningful relationships in my life, past and present.

Triangular connections have played a big part in leading me to love over the years. Back in ’94, a close family friend happened to know a producer for the TV show NYPD Blue. That family friend made it possible for me and my sister to watch a shoot in NYC’s Tompkins Square Park, where I ended up meeting LA-based sound mixer Mark (a.k.a Sparky). Longtime readers of this blog know the whirlwind odyssey that followed…

A few years later, mutual friends once again took on the role of Cupid.  A college classmate of mine married Nick, a Brit whose good friend David moved to New York. Nick went out of his way to make sure David called me, and so began a year and a half romance that I still remember fondly.

In 2001, I was in post-breakup mode when I moved to Southern Illinois and was warmly welcomed by next door neighbor Katherine. Much like a surrogate grandmother, Katherine invited me to dinner with her family – which is where I met her stepgrandson Steve. Our connection was immediate and we remain good friends to this day.

Of course, now  it only takes a few clicks on Facebook to be reminded that less than six degrees separates all of us today. And that you never know when one of those connections will generate a spark of the romantic variety.

Comment » | Facebook, falling in love, meeting new people, old flames

Girls Night Out With Schick Quattro For Women

January 16th, 2012 — 8:07pm

What does your choice of razor say about your dating style? According to the folks at Schick Quattro For Women, quite a bit.

To celebrate the launch of its newest Quattro razor, the brand has created a Facebook quiz — What’s Your Dating Trim style? Answer a series of questions to find out whether you’re foxy, classic, spontaneous, planned, etc. Now through February 29, fans of Schick Quattro For Women’s Facebook Page who take the quiz will receive a $1 coupon for the brand’s TrimStyle razor.

Schick unveiled the promotion during a recent girls night out event at NYC’s Bryant Park hotel.

Flirty cocktails at the event highlighted the different Dating Trim Style types

Guests also got a sneak preview of the new web series that Schick is sponsoring, Dating Rules From My Future Self. The witty, entertaining show (from the producers of Gossip Girl) has a clever premise — what if you could get advice now from your future self? — and a twentysomething cast with all the sass and charm of Sex and the City ‘s ladies. Definitely worth watching.

The evening’s featured speaker, dating expert Andrea Syrtash, author of He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing) shared some advice. When it comes to first dates, Syrtash advises– 

“Be your vacation self — be present and don’t overanalyze. Ask yourself, ‘Am I having fun with this person? Am I curious to know more?'”

 Andrea’s other top tips for giving your love life a makeover this year:

  • Take risks and get outside your comfort zone
  • You can’t have intimacy without vulnerability
  • Surround yourself with people who bring out your best
  • Be passionate and love your life

“Relationships are hard work — dating should be fun,” Syrtash says. 

Agreed. How do you plan to add more fun to your dating life in 2012?

Comment » | Andrea Syrtash, Bryant Park Hotel, dating advice, Facebook, Girls Night Out, Sex and The City

A Group Approach To Online Dating

December 14th, 2011 — 9:18pm

When you’re a thirtysomething single and you’ve navigated the choppy waters of online dating, you invariably find yourself thinking – there must be a better way. Something that feels less contrived and more organic.

Not too long ago, a friend of mine suggested going on a group online date – i.e., connecting with someone and then inviting his friends and hers to tag along. Less pressure, more odds of at least a passable night out. Sure enough, there’s already a website that does this, as I learned from a colleague of mine today.

Grouper arranges drinks between two groups of friends who don’t know each other — 3 girls and 3 guys. The connections are made by Grouper based on info from your Facebook account and the site takes care of the details too (i.e. reservations at a local hotspot).

My aforementioned colleague is going on his first Grouper date tonight. Trying Grouper is now officially on my list of 2012 resolutions, so stay tuned!

Comment » | being single in your thirties, Facebook, online dating

Flirting Via Social Media

June 21st, 2011 — 1:56pm

When it comes to connecting through social media, it’s no surprise that flirting is one of  the more popular applications.

Lately, I’ve heard from a handful of random bachelors through Facebook and Twitter. The unfortunate trend I’ve noticed, though, is most of them don’t bother to do their homework first. Unlike guys who reach out through online dating sites, the FB/Twitter crowd rarely attempts to personalize what they write.

Take for example, the 38-year-old Gotham bachelor who messaged me on Facebook without even addressing me by name.

“Hello How Are You Today. Am seeking a woman with good sense of humor understanding and with a caring heart,  for a long term relationship that could lead to marriage..when I hear from you I will tell you more about myself…Meanwhile tell little about yourself.”

I’m all for casting a wide net when searching for love, but sending mass impersonal emails or messages is just bad form. Of course, sometimes even the guys who do a little research first don’t quite know how to articulate that effectively. Here’s what one Texas-based bachelor (a professional writer, no less) tweeted me yesterday:

“I saw your site and you seem to be a ‘professional’ single girl. What I mean is…being single has become your profession.”

Call me oversensitive, but saying that I’m single for a living isn’t exactly a compliment. I’m a writer who happens to blog about being single — writing is my profession, being unattached is simply a part of who I am.

Thankfully, there is the rare, charming guy who gets that effective flirting lies in paying attention to the little things. In my Twitter bio, I mention a love for 80’s music. This prompted an adorable Ohio native to tweet me about his affection for music of that era.

“I’m the 80’s music king…awesome trivia shall come later..”

Sure enough, Mr. Ohio has sent along some playful trivia questions that have tested the limits of my 80’s knowledge — and opened the door to easy banter.

“You know I would walk to nyc if I knew love was there…lol.”

A romantic with a sense of humor who can articulate all of that in 140 characters or less? Sounds like my kind of guy.

1 comment » | Facebook, online flirting, Twitter

Blast From The Past

September 24th, 2009 — 1:46am


When it comes to old flames, I’ve experienced my fair share of those inclined to make unusual requests.

One married ex suggested we go on a double date with his wife and my then-boyfriend. Another insisted I meet his live-in love — the morning after he and I had shared a few passionate kisses. The most unexpected request, though, happened yesterday with E, an old flame from my college days.

E and I were good friends until a disastrous brief fling. In a Facebook email aptly titled “Blast From The Past,” he informed me that he was coming to New York today.

I was more than a little surprised to hear from E given that we hadn’t seen or spoken to each other in more than a decade. And even more surprised about what prompted his email — a need for last-minute accommodations.

“If not you,” he asked, “Do you have any friends I might be able to stay with?”

He tempered this “super-cheeky” request by suggesting we catch up during his short visit. Here, I opted to oblige him.

Coming up…celebrating National Singles Week and, at long last, U2!

2 comments » | being single in New York, catching up with old flames, ex boyfriends, Facebook, National Singles Week, U2

Blast From The Past

September 23rd, 2009 — 8:46pm


When it comes to old flames, I’ve experienced my fair share of those inclined to make unusual requests.

One married ex suggested we go on a double date with his wife and my then-boyfriend. Another insisted I meet his live-in love — the morning after he and I had shared a few passionate kisses. The most unexpected request, though, happened yesterday with E, an old flame from my college days.

E and I were good friends until a disastrous brief fling. In a Facebook email aptly titled “Blast From The Past,” he informed me that he was coming to New York today.

I was more than a little surprised to hear from E given that we hadn’t seen or spoken to each other in more than a decade. And even more surprised about what prompted his email — a need for last-minute accommodations.

“If not you,” he asked, “Do you have any friends I might be able to stay with?”

He tempered this “super-cheeky” request by suggesting we catch up during his short visit. Here, I opted to oblige him.

Coming up…celebrating National Singles Week and, at long last, U2!

2 comments » | being single in New York, catching up with old flames, ex boyfriends, Facebook, National Singles Week, U2

Singles Event Pick: Summer Sundays

August 21st, 2009 — 1:12am

Summer may be winding down, but the singles event scene in NYC continues to heat up. This weekend, the Empire Hotel’s popular rooftop lounge is hosting Summer Sunday.

The Empire Hotel Rooftop: Enjoy Summer Sundays right here

A seasonal series, Summer Sundays offer sunset cocktails, a view of Central Park and house Djs spinning down tempo and chill beats. The free six-hour event kicks off at 5pm and you can RSVP here.

I learned about Summer Sundays through a fabulous Facebook group co-founded by hostess with the mostess April Lynn Martin. From fashion events and charity galas to gallery openings and art parties, this is the group to sign up for if you’re a single New Yorker and want to be in the know.

Coming up…a memorable tribute to TV’s longest running show and a taste of France right here in Gotham.

Comment » | Central Park, Empire Hotel, Facebook, rooftop bars, singles events, summer events

Singles Event Pick: Summer Sundays

August 20th, 2009 — 8:12pm

Summer may be winding down, but the singles event scene in NYC continues to heat up. This weekend, the Empire Hotel’s popular rooftop lounge is hosting Summer Sunday.

The Empire Hotel Rooftop: Enjoy Summer Sundays right here

A seasonal series, Summer Sundays offer sunset cocktails, a view of Central Park and house Djs spinning down tempo and chill beats. The free six-hour event kicks off at 5pm and you can RSVP here.

I learned about Summer Sundays through a fabulous Facebook group co-founded by hostess with the mostess April Lynn Martin. From fashion events and charity galas to gallery openings and art parties, this is the group to sign up for if you’re a single New Yorker and want to be in the know.

Coming up…a memorable tribute to TV’s longest running show and a taste of France right here in Gotham.

Comment » | Central Park, Empire Hotel, Facebook, rooftop bars, singles events, summer events

Up Close With Lauren Luke

August 4th, 2009 — 11:20pm

Thursday, I headed over to Sephora’s brand-new location in Times Square for the U.S. launch of Lauren Luke’s new makeup kits.

With her wildly popular makeup tutorial videos on YouTube — broadcast from a webcam in her bedroom — Lauren has become an international sensation beloved by her fans for her sense of humor and down-to-earth personality.

Meeting Miss Luke: Lauren and me at her Sephora debut

After an inspiring video about her rise to fame (that included a meet and greet with Queen Elizabeth), I had the pleasure of chatting with the 27-year-old England-born single mom. Soft spoken and absolutely charming, Lauren said she first fell in love with cosmetics as a teen. Her top beauty inspirations — Megan Fox and Deeta Von Teese.

Even with her phenomenal success, Lauren remains approachable and fully connected to her thousands of followers via Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. She’s an awesome example of what can happen when true passion and talent intersect with the power of social media.

Lauren has developed five fabulous makeup kits that you can order here. Sephora will launch the kits nationwide across 135 stores next month.

Comment » | Facebook, Lauren Luke, makeup advice, new Sephora in Times Square, Twitter, viral marketing, YouTube

Up Close With Lauren Luke

August 4th, 2009 — 6:20pm

Thursday, I headed over to Sephora’s brand-new location in Times Square for the U.S. launch of Lauren Luke’s new makeup kits.

With her wildly popular makeup tutorial videos on YouTube — broadcast from a webcam in her bedroom — Lauren has become an international sensation beloved by her fans for her sense of humor and down-to-earth personality.

Meeting Miss Luke: Lauren and me at her Sephora debut

After an inspiring video about her rise to fame (that included a meet and greet with Queen Elizabeth), I had the pleasure of chatting with the 27-year-old England-born single mom. Soft spoken and absolutely charming, Lauren said she first fell in love with cosmetics as a teen. Her top beauty inspirations — Megan Fox and Deeta Von Teese.

Even with her phenomenal success, Lauren remains approachable and fully connected to her thousands of followers via Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. She’s an awesome example of what can happen when true passion and talent intersect with the power of social media.

Lauren has developed five fabulous makeup kits that you can order here. Sephora will launch the kits nationwide across 135 stores next month.

Comment » | Facebook, Lauren Luke, makeup advice, new Sephora in Times Square, Twitter, viral marketing, YouTube

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