Category: Single Gal In The City


June 30th, 2014 — 12:04am

Six years ago this week, I wrote my as Single Gal In The City. Today marks the final installment here.

As I look forward to starting my next chapter in the blogosphere, I find myself also looking back at everything I’ve experienced on and offline since launching SGITC.

Back in 2008, when my good friend Carla finally succeeded in convincing me to share my musings about dating and relationships, I was 34 and rediscovering the joys of being single. Starting this blog renewed my ability to view singlehood as an adventure as I explored all that my hometown has to offer.

Along the way, I have connected with amazing single men and women, appreciating in a deeper way that when it comes to searching for a mate, we can all learn from each other. In more than 1,100 posts, I’ve shared many of my defining moments in life and love. I’ve blogged about the , the and, of course, my dating blitzes across the and .

One of the questions I’m most often asked is – what will you blog about when you’re no longer single? As I like to think this blog has shown, a writer never runs out of things to talk about. It’s why, over time, SGITC has evolved from being a dating blog to a memoir about life in and with my one true love–New York City.

I’m excited to continue in that same vein over on my new blog, . Because even though I’m still a single gal in the city, ‘single’ is not the label that defines me. It is simply a part of the shared adventure of life here in my exhilarating, frustrating and singular hometown.

Among the greatest lessons I’ve learned from being a single gal in what is arguably the toughest dating market on Planet Earth–never give up. As my favorite TV hero from once said–

“What’s a great love story without obstacles to overcome? Every fairy tale has them–terrible trials that only the worthy can transcend. But, you can’t give up. That’s the deal. We want the happy ending. We can’t give up.”

Finally, I want to express my tremendous gratitude for your support as readers of Single Gal In The City. As any writer will tell you, a little encouragement goes a long way. I’ve been very fortunate to receive plenty of it over the last six years. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

–Melissa

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July 17th, 2013 — 9:16pm

I recently celebrated a special anniversary – five years of Single Gal In The City. The milestone comes as I’m about to wrap up handwritten journal #99, so I’m feeling more than a little reflective about the journey I’ve taken as a writer.

For as long as I can remember, writing has been one of my greatest passions. Still, I never could have imagined that it would lead to me having my own little corner of the blogosphere – something for which I must once again thank my dear friend Carla, because without her unyielding encouragement, SGITC would never have come to be.

It’s been quite a ride since I penned that on July 2, 2008. I’ve done three dating blitzes (in NYC, across the US and in Europe), done speed dating multiple times, tried various dating websites, had ill-fated but illuminating romances and even a few encounters with old flames.

Then, of course, there are the many exciting invitations that have come to me because of this blog — TV show appearances, theater performances and book launch parties to name just a few. For a New Yorker who adores her hometown, I’ve found myself smitten all over again with it during these only-in-the-Big-Apple moments.

Along the way, of course, writing this blog has not been without its surprises. The biggest one — that five years later, I’m still a single gal in the city.

I never expected to still be flying solo at the end of my thirties. An often heard response to that — but isn’t that what my ‘brand’ is all about? And what could I possibly write about if I’m no longer single?

My answer to that – a writer always finds something to write about (as I close in on my 100th journal, it’s fair to say I’m speaking from a healthy amount of experience). As for the notion that the blog is a hindrance to happily ever after, well, I’m not convinced. I know at least a few dating bloggers who have found lasting love while maintaining their relationship-driven corners of cyberspace.

I also know it isn’t any one particular thing which decides your romantic fate. It is ultimately a confluence of factors that leads you to your mate. Not the least of which is staying open to the possibility of finding him.

Thanks to all of the singles, married and somewhere-in-between folks who have shown me that time and again. And for your part in making this journey as a blogger such a rewarding one.

 

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October 17th, 2012 — 9:18pm

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MyAKA is giving Single Gal In The City readers a 7-day free trial, no payment information required. The service provides users with a second phone number in their local area code, allowing two mobile numbers on one phone. The assigned number is not linked to user information in any way. And unlike forwarding services, it offers real number protection on incoming and outgoing calls.

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 You’re probably wondering — what’s the catch with the 7-day free trial? None. With this special offer for SGITC readers, you can enjoy seven worry-free days of flirting with MyAKA, without even entering your credit card. And when you decide to keep the service, you can upgrade your number in two easy steps at the MyAKA site.  It’s as easy as that to date safely this fall. 

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July 3rd, 2012 — 8:43pm

Four years ago today, thanks to the encouragement of my dear friend , I started Single Gal In The City. I can still remember the excitement I felt writing my – and Carla’s enthusiastic response when I shared it with her—

“OMG, I love it! Keep going!”

All smiles on the Brooklyn Bridge, a week after launching SGITC

And so began what has been a truly amazing, unexpected journey. My little corner of the blogosphere has given me the opportunity to grow and learn so much – by reflecting on the ups and downs of being single in New York City.

Over the last four years, I have shared tales of online dating, speed dating and multiple dating blitzes. I have talked about new romances and old flames. I have of my handwritten journals about 80 times. And I have shared memorable travels, girls nights out and career transitions.

Along the way, I have heard from many of you about your own journeys through the unpredictable landscape of dating in the 21st century. I thank you for that – and for spending time here on SGITC. It is a pleasure and privilege to have this platform. It wouldn’t be possible without your support.

Thinking about the 1,600 posts+ that have brought me to today, I also find myself thinking about the two questions I’m most often asked: do I ever run out of things to write about? And what in the world will I write about if/when I’m no longer a single gal in the city? My answers – absolutely not and plenty.

As the 98 volumes of my journal can also attest, a writer always writes. A new relationship status won’t change that. It will simply mean blogging from a different vantage point while continuing to share the people, places and experiences that make up life in this wonderful city I’m so fortunate to call home.

To celebrate Single Gal In The City’s fourth anniversary, I’m giving away a few items I’ve raved about over the years. Two SGITC readers will win copies of relationship advice book, How To Be The One by Roy Sheppard. One reader will receive a copy of Blane Bachelor’s fabulous collection of columns and wisdom about dating, On Being A Bachelor. And another reader will receive a DVD copy of one of my all-time favorite movies, Dirty Dancing. To enter the giveaway, post a comment below by Friday July 13th sharing what you’ve enjoyed most about SGITC so far.

Here’s to many more blogversaries!

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July 4th, 2011 — 12:49pm

As we commemorate our beloved nation’s 235th birthday, I’m also excited to be celebrating another milestone — the third anniversary of Single Gal In The City.

Celebrating SGITC's First Anniversary, June 2009

When I began SGITC three years ago today, I never imagined all of the wonderful things that would result from it. What started as a creative outlet for someone who’s been keeping a diary since the age of 7 has evolved into a vehicle for making the most of this journey called singlehood.

Because of the blog, I’ve had the opportunity to experience the best of my beloved Big Apple, connect with amazing people on and offline and never forget that being unattached does not mean being alone. Above all, though, I have been able to travel far out of my comfort zone and follow my bliss — two of the greatest joys to be had in life.

On this day of expressing gratitude for living in the greatest country on earth, I am also feeling thankful for each of you who have joined me here on my little corner of the blogosphere. Whether you’ve stopped by once or made SGITC part of your daily routine, I thank you. And I look forward to sharing many more adventures with you.

Happy 4th everyone!

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June 26th, 2011 — 8:56pm

Last month, I had the pleasure of crossing a major item off my bucket list – visiting California’s glorious . I’m excited to report that Consort Wine Tours, which hosted me and my friends for a memorable afternoon, is offering Single Gal In The City readers a 20% discount!

Mention SGITC when you reach out to Consort Wine Tours and you’ll receive a six-hour tour of Napa or Sonoma Valley for $375 — the price of a five-hour tour. Company owner David Locke delivers a truly first-class experience that includes a complimentary Schramsberg, cheese and fruit platter, and a picnic lunch from upscale Bouchon Bakery.

What’s more, David can also plan your entire vacation (extra cost), mapping out hotels, restaurants, spas and – of course – great places to meet singles.  For one stop shopping, you can’t do any better than this lifetime resident of Napa Valley who knows California’s wine country inside and out.

For more information about booking, visit .

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February 12th, 2011 — 2:13pm

Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day is a popular occasion for indulging in chocolate – and, according to research about dating, in prompting people to reassess their relationship. Regardless of your dating status, Baskin-Robbins’ newest creation, Heartbreak Healer, will satisfy your sweet spot.

Yum: Baskin-Robbins' Heartbreak Healer

A decadent pairing of red chocolate hearts and chocolate chunks in chocolate mousse ice cream, Heartbreak Healer is available in stores nationwide this month. As a Valentine treat for Single Gal In The City readers, the ice cream giant is offering gift certificates so you can try this delicious new flavor.

Want to win one? Simply post a comment here by Friday February 18th sharing your best or worst Valentine’s Day experience.

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November 30th, 2010 — 4:30pm
(photo courtesy: KimWeston.com)

Last week, I had the pleasure of connecting with Kim Kuhteubl, founder of the fabulous website . A native of Toronto (my former hometown) now living in the LA area, Kim got me to thinking about something a Single Gal In The City reader recently asked — would I leave New York to look for love?

Longtime readers of this blog know it’s a question I’ve been considering for quite awhile now. It’s what sparked my decision to go on two Dating Blitzes and examine what dating is like outside of New York. Though the women I met in other cities confirmed that finding love is tough these days in any zip code, they — along with most of the men I dated — also revealed something else. That when it comes to settling down, the odds are at least a little better if you reside in a place where being single isn’t considered the end all be all.

As I’ve said many times since returning from my travels, the best thing about being unattached in New York is also the worst — the absence of any pressure to find a long-term relationship. That laissez-faire attitude is ideal if you are happy to be your one and only. Those of us who feel differently, though, are made to wonder if it’s wrong to want more than the single and fabulous life. And if we would be more likely to find it somewhere other than the Big Apple.

So, yes, I’m haven’t ruled out an exodus from NYC for a dating change of pace. I’ll see what 2011 has in store for me and then revisit the idea. Who knows? Maybe I’ll end up as a resident of one of my Dating Blitz destinations.

If you could move anywhere — to shake up your love life or for any other reason — where would it be?

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November 8th, 2010 — 9:24pm

Readers of this blog know I’m a big fan of the theater. Which is why I’m excited to announce a special offer and ticket giveaway for Miss Abigail’s Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage.

Manuel Herrera and Eve Plumb star in Miss Abigail's Guide..(photo courtesy: Carol Rosegg)

Starring Jan Plumb (a.k.a. Jan from The Brady Bunch), the off-Broadway show tells the story of Miss Abigail, the most sought-after relationship expert to the stars — think Dr. Ruth meets Emily Post — and her sexy sidekick Paco, as they travel the world teaching Miss Abigail’s outrageously funny “how-to’s” on dating, mating and marriage.

Single Gal In The City readers can book discounted $45 tickets by (or on the sidebar banner) and typing in the code DATING. Even better, I’ve got two pairs of tickets to give away! If you’re interested, post a comment here by Monday November 15th with the number one question you’d ask Miss Abigail or someone like her, if you had the chance!

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October 19th, 2010 — 5:42pm

Yagolicious Cosmetics is hosting a girls night out for a great cause — with a special perk for Single Gal In The City readers.

Beauty Bar: Yagolicious Cosmetics' December event will take place here

On Thursday December 16th , The Yagolicious Beauty Affair will take place at vintage ’60s beauty parlor turned Beauty Bar in NYC’s East Village. The event will generate toiletries and Christmas gift baskets for Women In Need (WIN), a local non-profit agency providing permanent supportive housing, chemical dependency treatment, employment and education services.

From 6 to 10pm, Yagolicious guests will enjoy complimentary massages, makeovers and manicures served with shrimp, chocolate dipped strawberries and pink cotton candy martinis.  Attendees must bring a minimum of two items to donate to the Christmas gift baskets for WIN (tooth brush, deodorant, clothes that are in good condition etc.).

SGITC readers will get 10% off the $35 VIP ticket price (regular tickets are $20). VIP guests receive gift bags and The Yagolicious Cosmetics Face Clutch Lip Palette. VIP discount Code is: SingleGalintheCity, to book your tickets.

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