Category: meeting Mr. Right


A Fun Night At Delta’s T4X Lounge

May 16th, 2013 — 9:30pm

Tuesday night, I headed down to SoHo to Delta’s pop up lounge for Single Edition Media‘s party at the airline’s new Terminal Four at JFK.

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The scene at Delta’s T4X pop up lounge

The swanky soiree celebrated seasonal fashion and beauty trends, with demos from some great brands. I sampled BluePrintCleanse‘s green juice and cashew milk, enjoyed an Elizabeth Arden, makeover and learned about GLO, an affordable, fast teeth whitening device I wish I’d known about before going the pricier gel tray route.

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Foot Pedals Founder Tina Aldatz

Nanette Lepore reps shared first date style tips (less is always more when it comes to revealing attire, ladies) while Foot Petals founder Tina Aldatz offered red carpet secrets (FP’s Killer Cushions under tip toes).

One of the evening’s highlights – alongside some very easy on the eyes Delta pilots — was hearing inspiring stories about happily ever after. GLO’s co-founders beamed as they mentioned their marriage of 30 years and counting. Foot Petals’ Tina was all aglow about being engaged at 44. Newly-engaged fellow blogger Jess Downey told me how her future hubby found her on OkCupid while searching for a fellow beer aficionado.

I couldn’t help thinking about the different prism through which I’m reacting to these examples of meeting your match. As I recently mentioned, Amy Spencer’s fabulous book about dating optimism has had a lot to do with that. Amy writes that, instead of viewing other couples from the “why them and not me?” perspective, see them as examples of what is possible.

Amazing how different life and love can look when you change your perspective.

| meeting Mr. Right, SoHo

A Dating Blitz Reunion

September 12th, 2011 — 8:33pm

Saturday, I got the chance to catch up with two of my favorite people from last year’s US and European Dating Blitzes.

Hello Again: WhyCLE blogger Jen and me

My action-packed day started at Fig and Olive in Midtown, where I had brunch with WhyCLE blogger and Cleveland native Jen, and her fiance Matthew. Jen reiterated how finding Mr Right was the furthest thing from her mind when we talked about singlehood back in March of 2010. She was going to cancel her subscription to Match.com, but it auto-renewed before she could — which is when she connected with Matt.

A good-looking couple that are truly a perfect fit, Jen and Matt had me laughing about the unscripted moments leading up to their engagement.

Matt’s first attempt was thwarted by a ring mix-up with the jeweler. Once he finally had the ring, he decided to decorate their home with hundreds of roses for the occasion, disconnecting the garage door opener so Jen could experience her surprise by coming in through the front door. Jen was so focused on going out and getting the gadget fixed – not to mention recovering from a rough day at the office – that Matt had a hard time getting her full attention.

Jen and Matt were beaming with happiness as they shared the story. If this is what happily ever after looks like, I say sign me up.

Up next…the scoop on my long-awaited second date with an Irish sweetheart.

| meeting Mr. Right, online dating, The Great Dating Blitz

It Only Takes One

September 3rd, 2011 — 10:29pm

Someone once told me that, when it comes to most milestones in life — be it a job, a home or a relationship — it only takes one for everything to change. The combination of a good friend’s wedding and my return to online dating has reminded how true this is.

A few weeks ago, I met up for coffee with J, who got things off to an awkward start by saying–

“I don’t know how to greet you, since you’re a professional dater.”

It only went downhill from there, during an excruciating hour that found J quoting lines from bad movies and his fear of using in-flight restrooms for fear of where airport sewage goes. I felt uncomfortable and not myself the entire time, thinking as we parted ways what you usually do after a dreadful date…why do I even bother anymore?

Miraculously so, I managed to muster up the wherewithal a few days later to go out with another bachelor whom I’d connected with online. Much to my great surprise, we clicked. The conversation flowed and the evening ended with us holding hands and the promise of a second date. And just like that, I understood the reason I’m still putting myself through this unpredictable process, embracing the reminders of where it all will (hopefully) eventually lead.

I Do: Julie and Brian celebrate becoming husband and wife

Today was one of those reminders, as I witnessed my good friend Julie marry her beloved Brian. Julie and Brian met on OkCupid about a year ago, and they couldn’t be a more perfect match.

Like that wise person once said, it only takes one.

| getting married in your thirties, meeting Mr. Right, OKCupid, online dating

Embracing The Unexpected

August 24th, 2011 — 2:29pm

I recently corresponded with two women I met on last year’s US Dating Blitz — both of whom are engaged. As they shared their bliss during this pre-marital period, I couldn’t help thinking about how the unexpected is so much a part of wherever you are in the relationship spectrum.

For both betrothed gals, meeting their respective fiancés was a surprise. Cleveland native Jen joined Match on a lark, with what she describes as zero expectations. Atlanta resident Leah dragged herself to a holiday party she had no interest in attending.

Their respective happy outcomes reminded me you have to be open to wherever this process takes you. Case in point — my recent second date with a long ago colleague I connected with on OkCupid.

As I mentioned here, given our very rocky professional history, I can say he is the last person I would ever have expected to go out with.  And yet, we ended up sharing a great conversation and some laughs — a reminder that it’s always worth letting go of the past to make room for new possibilities in the present.

Congrats, Jen and Leah!

| meeting Mr. Right, OKCupid, online dating, The Great Dating Blitz

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

July 13th, 2010 — 6:13pm

As a thirtysomething single, you often hear this popular refrain about meeting the right person — that it happens when you least expect it.

Two good friends and brides-to-be have reminded me there’s great truth to this adage, the caveat being Cupid tends to strike when you depart from your usual routine.

With The Bride To Be: Heidi and me celebrating her engagement

Take my dear friend Heidi, for example. Real estate agent by day and performance artist by night, Heidi typically follows choir rehearsal with an evening of tango. One night last summer, she opted instead to go to a karaoke place that she’d never been to on NYC’s Upper East Side. It was there that she met Mike. On their third date, Mike told her–

“If we’re still together in a year, we should get married.”

They’re getting married in October.

For France Tourism PR maven and fashionista Katherine, it happened at a Super Bowl party she had no desire to attend.

Having turned down several Super Bowl invites, Katherine was looking forward to a girls night in of movies and Magnolia cupcakes. So she was less than thrilled when her friend insisted they go to a football party hosted by the guy she’d just started dating. Until she met Bernard, a French-born American with a similar passion for travel, wine and the offbeat. Katherine and Bernard are tying the knot in 2012, with Les Liaisons Dangereuses-themed attire.

Katherine and Heidi’s Mr. Right encounters show that you never know when love is going to cross your path. That uncertainty goes hand in hand with the adventure of being single — an adventure worth savoring every step of the way.

| karaoke, meeting Mr. Right, Upper East Side

The Unexpected Love Connection

September 10th, 2009 — 2:00pm

When you’re a thirtysomething single and you encounter women who’ve found their lifetime partner, you invariably find yourself asking – how did you meet him? After a recent exchange of this kind, I couldn’t help thinking about the unexpected ways in which someone special can cross your path.

While attending a chick lit lecture the other night, married gal Marissa and newly-engaged Wendy filled me in about their respective roads to happily ever after. Marissa met her hubby in a Brooklyn bar, only to discover later that they lived just four blocks from each other. Wendy, meanwhile, got lucky at a singles boat party she grudgingly attended at the insistence of her friends.

Their stories reminded me that, statistical probability be damned, you never know when chemistry will ignite. This weekend, I’m going on a date with Ali, the friend of a friend’s new husband. We met at the newlyweds’ moving-to-the-burbs party, where a romantic prospect was the last thing I expected to find.

That’s the thing about being unattached in New York. Thanks to the element of surprise, the next adventure is always right around the corner.

| being single in New York, Brooklyn, meeting Mr. Right, singles parties, unexpected romance

The Unexpected Love Connection

September 10th, 2009 — 9:00am

When you’re a thirtysomething single and you encounter women who’ve found their lifetime partner, you invariably find yourself asking – how did you meet him? After a recent exchange of this kind, I couldn’t help thinking about the unexpected ways in which someone special can cross your path.

While attending a chick lit lecture the other night, married gal Marissa and newly-engaged Wendy filled me in about their respective roads to happily ever after. Marissa met her hubby in a Brooklyn bar, only to discover later that they lived just four blocks from each other. Wendy, meanwhile, got lucky at a singles boat party she grudgingly attended at the insistence of her friends.

Their stories reminded me that, statistical probability be damned, you never know when chemistry will ignite. This weekend, I’m going on a date with Ali, the friend of a friend’s new husband. We met at the newlyweds’ moving-to-the-burbs party, where a romantic prospect was the last thing I expected to find.

That’s the thing about being unattached in New York. Thanks to the element of surprise, the next adventure is always right around the corner.

| being single in New York, Brooklyn, meeting Mr. Right, singles parties, unexpected romance

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