It’s been another eventful week for me as I continue settling in to my expanded role as Marketing Manager for two hotels. Two video shoots and an all-day event at Grand Central Terminal were on the agenda, along with the first meeting with my new boss at the Westin.
During our get to know each other conversation, my boss and I ended up talking briefly about the winding road to settling down. She shared her experience of becoming a mother at 38 and then again at 44, and asked me about my marital status.
Practicing what I’ve been preaching lately about the powers of dating optimism (as discovered here), I declared that I’m single and hopeful about finding love. She quickly confided that she knows a 43-year-old bachelor who just happens to be looking for someone special.
I smiled, assuring her that I have no-fault matchmaking clause. As we both laughed, I couldn’t help thinking once again about the power of positive thinking. It’s easy to forget in the sea of noncommitment and cynicism that defines so much of dating in New York. But once you open your eyes to what exists beyond this crowded cityscape, you discover there is a lot to be positive about.
As my perspective has gradually shifted. I’ve noticed a new kind of momentum in my love life. I feel energized, discovering that being open to the right relationship doesn’t mean exhausting yourself to find it. Being happy and sure footed in your own life opens doors that remain firmly closed when you don’t allow yourself to dream big.
And really, isn’t dreaming big what life and love are all about?