About seven months ago, I decided it was time to upgrade my kitchen and bathroom. Though I was forewarned by family and friends to prepare for delays and detours, I still couldn’t have imagined how all consuming this little home improvement project would become.
As I near the end of my renovation odyssey, I can’t help thinking that some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way also apply to the search for love.
Never Assume (i.e. Ask The Right Questions) – My contractor assured me his company would take care of the paperwork needed for my co-op, so I assumed I didn’t have to do anything on my end. Until a month later when my superintendent happened to inform me I needed to fill out an alteration agreement. I could’ve avoided the four week delay if I had just asked the right questions, something that’s just as important to do when you’re in the early stages of dating someone new.
Expect The Unexpected – This seems like an obvious one, but I was still thrown for a loop when faced with crookedly hung cabinets, the delivery of backsplash tiles I didn’t order and minor construction mistakes shared with me after installation. No matter how much you plan, renovating is full of surprises and the same is true of dating.
The Timeline In Your Head Doesn’t Always Correspond To Reality – When I signed with my contractor back in November, I figured I would be cooking in my new kitchen by Valentine’s Day. That deadline came and went, a reminder that it doesn’t matter what time frame you have in your head for completing a major milestone. Life happens and this is especially true when it comes to the circuitous path of dating and mating. That doesn’t mean it won’t happen, only that it’s going to take a little longer.
With my newly made over kitchen and bathroom about a week or so away from being finished — fingers, toes and all other parts crossed, of course – I’m feeling hopeful about what lies ahead for my love life too.