A Second Date With A Semi-Surprising Outcome

My second date with Long Island bachelor and OkCupid member E began much like the first – at a fabulous nightspot in Chelsea.

We met for drinks at The Darby, an upscale jazz club and restaurant with rich, elegant décor and great music. As we clinked glasses, E said I looked pretty and we made easy small talk about the holidays and our plans for the evening.

For dinner, E chose Crispo, a first-class Italian bistro with a cozy main dining room featuring exposed brick, a waterfall and wrought iron chairs. The food was amazing – I had black truffle ricotta ravioli and we shared a sublime tiramisu for dessert. Along the way, E asked a lot of questions and listened intently as I told him about my travels to Australia over the years and what I learned during my U.S. Dating Blitz.

Crispo serves delicious, authentic Italian fare (Photo Courtesy: Whollygastromony.com)

I found myself thinking maybe I had read too much into his gay-related observations on date #1 — until we got to Canal Room down in Soho.

As we waited for awesome 80’s tribute band Jessie’s Girl to take the stage, E quoted some advice a friend had shared with him–

“’If you like this girl, don’t tell her you like Neil Diamond.’”

While I’m processing why he’s telling me this, E reflects on how popular tight jeans were during the 80’s – and gestures toward the rear end of a guy in front of us who’s wearing them.

At this point, I can’t ignore the fact that my gay-dar vibe is sounding an alarm. I try putting that aside once the concert starts, doing by best to just enjoy Jessie’s Girl’s energetic set of 80’s classics. But when E leans over – twice – to comment on the band’s muscle-shirt clad male backup singer, my patience begins to wear thin. Nothing’s a bigger buzzkill than having your date make eyes at other men.

E and I shared an awkward cab ride back uptown.

“I’ll talk to you soon,” he called out as he shut the door and I knew that wasn’t going to happen. Because clearly, he has a few things to figure out when it comes to who exactly he wants to date.

Though I managed to eventually find the humor in this unexpected episode, it also served as a cautionary tale of what can happen when you rely too heavily on the Internet to find love. I’ve said it many times and it bears repeating: online dating is a lot like gambling. There are the lucky few who hit the jackpot and then there’s everybody else. I, for one, have had my fill of cyberspace-instigated dates. So I’m officially taking my online profile down and making a New Year’s resolution to get offline and back out there again.

The quest for love continues.

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2 Responses to “A Second Date With A Semi-Surprising Outcome”

  1. beth grossman

    unbelievable…..who is he trying to kid? himself?
    waste of everyone’s time…

  2. Melissa

    Agreed. Though at least it has pushed me to get offline and back into the real world of meeting people!

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