When Recycling Old Flames Doesn’t Work

When it comes to old flames, one of the things I’ve learned — with few exceptions — is they are better left in the past. I was reminded of this the other day, when I heard from a recent ex.

Upon reading about my breakup with Chris, said ex sent me a Facebook message suggesting we get together for “lunch or something.” I flirted briefly with the idea – until my common sense kicked in and I decided to revisit his Match.com profile.

Just as it did a year ago, his profile says he’s interested in women ages 21-42, and he is “open to a relationship but want to have some fun without too high expectations.”

That’s the line I should have paid closer attention to before. Thankfully, though, the past twelve months have made me not only older but a little wiser. I know now that recycling old flames rarely delivers a different outcome, especially when the differences that divided you remain unchanged.

All the more reason why I’m excited to stay focused on moving forward. Coming up…how my Great Dating Blitz across the U.S. landed me four dates here in the Big Apple.

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