Category: Midtown NYC


Girls Night Out: Midtown

July 17th, 2011 — 12:17pm

Friday, I enjoyed a girls night out in Midtown with my new friend Natalie. Natalie and I connected a few months ago at a Meetup.com bar crawl in Woodside.

“Funny how I went to a singles event to meet guys and came home with a girl’s phone number,” she later said.

I know exactly what she means.

The challenges of making a connection of the romantic variety were one of many things we talked about over drinks and food at La Barrique, a French bistro with a cozy, convivial vibe. Also on the conversational menu – getting past commitment fears, dating against type and bizarre behavior encountered with online dating.

New to NYC — she moved here (by way of Tampa and Houston) about a year ago – Natalie recently went on her first online date ever. Still very much in the honeymoon period of being a Gotham resident, she is excited to explore the singles scene and try different activities. Her enthusiasm was almost contagious and enough to get me thinking about joining her.

From La Barrique, we walked over to Bryant Park, stopping for some ice cream along the way. When she ordered, Natalie specified how many scoops she wanted.

“Single, please.”

“Married!” said the Mr. Softee guy without missing a beat. “But nice to meet you.”

We both laughed. That’s one thing about New York – there’s no shortage of personality here.

1 comment » | Bryant Park, Girls Night Out, Midtown NYC

Love Lessons From A Former Serial Monogamist

December 12th, 2010 — 1:59pm

Thursday, I met up with JP, a Twitter follower of mine and Alabama-based thirtysomething married dad of three. JP had read about my Dating Blitz across the US this spring and offered to share his take on finding love.

The Bar Room: JP and I met up at this lively Midtown spot in NYC’s Museum of Modern Art

Over drinks at MoMa, JP admitted he was a moderate serial monogamist before settling down at the age of 28. Once he felt ready for marriage, he was single minded about it.

“I wouldn’t go out with someone because I was looking for the right person and decided they couldn’t be the one,” he said.

If he could go back and talk to his single self, JP says he would tell him to give people a chance and not rush into labeling someone as not a match. He also recommends doing activities without the intent of making a connection — but being always remaining open to it happening.

We talked a lot about first dates. I mentioned my disdain for “what do you do?” being the default go-to question. JP suggests asking something unexpected instead. For example–

“If you could do anything you want for a living that’s the complete opposite of what you do now, what would it be?”

Now 36, JP has learned how important communication and true partnership are to making a marriage work. As a lawyer, he says it would be easy for him to go into cross-examination mode during an argument — but he doesn’t because a committed relationship deserves better than that. It also requires being giving up a certain amount of independence for the sake of building something together.

Along with sharing his insights about love, JP told me that most of his friends are married — happily so. I couldn’t help thinking about something which came up time and again on my Dating Blitz journey, that people outside of New York are generally wired to leave singlehood behind much sooner than they do here. Which is one big reason why 2011 could be the year I leave Gotham behind for somewhere else.

1 comment » | Midtown NYC, moving out of your hometown, The Great Dating Blitz, Twitter

Final New York Post Date

July 5th, 2010 — 6:39pm

Thursday, I went out with Dan, the fifth and final bachelor who reached out to me after the New York Post story mentioning my Great Dating Blitz.

Ayza: This cozy bar in Midtown West serves up delightful wine flights

Dan, a fortysomething attorney from Long Island, and I met up at Ayza, a cozy wine and chocolate bar in NYC’s Midtown West. Over a shared plate of hummus and selection of scrumptious chocolates, we talked about my travels and his life in the suburbs.

Like the other New York Post bachelors, Dan was very curious about my 8-week journey — and kind enough to say it was brave of me to undertake it. I couldn’t help thinking that dating in New York is what takes courage. Taking a breather from it to experience single life in other cities was easy by comparison.

It didn’t take long for me to know that Dan would fall into the same category of other recent first dates — nice but no sparks. Thankfully, not all of the dates were a total loss. I’ve remained friends with one of the guys and he’s introduced me to some of his fabulous single buddies. Sure, they happen to be female but broadening your social circle is always a good thing.

If only it was a little easier to do that with the opposite sex.

2 comments » | first dates, Midtown NYC, New York Post, The Great Dating Blitz, wine bars

Girls Night Out: Dos Caminos

May 17th, 2010 — 1:07pm

Last night, I enjoyed a girls night out with Marriott International’s Senior Director of Public Relations Paula Butler.

Over shared chips and guacamole and a delicious dinner at Dos Caminos in Midtown NYC (shrimp quesadilla for Paula, skirt steak for me), Paula and I had a great conversation about life, love, work, travel and my Great Dating Blitz.

Paula asked if the women I met along the way want to remain unattached. I told her that all of them are making the most of being single — but that very few seemed uninterested in finding a partner, even if they aren’t looking for one right now.

I also shared how the trip reinforced that having a laundry list of requirements for who you’ll date isn’t the most expeditious way to find lasting love. One guy I went out with in Denver said he had met a woman who had never seen “The Princess Bride,” and he knew right away that was a red flag and didn’t ask her out again. I love that movie as much as the next girl, but a dealbreaker? Really?

Paula and I also talked about our shared passion for Broadway shows and made a date to see one together next time she’s in town. Connecting with her is one of many wonderful relationships to result from my little 8-week adventure across the U.S.

Coming up…Chris and I reunite in the Big Apple and a review of one of Broadway’s hottest shows.

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Singles Event Pick: Young Wall Street and CC4C Happy Hour

February 4th, 2010 — 5:57pm

City Chicks 4 Charity and Young Wall Street are teaming up for Happy New Year Happy Hour.

Set for tonight from 630-930pm, the event will take place at Traffic Bar and Lounge in Midtown. The $20 donation at the door covers beer and cocktail specials and light snacks, and there will be a raffle as well.

Proceeds from the event will benefit Chess-in-the-Schools, a nonprofit educational organization dedicated to improving academic performance and building self-esteem among inner-city public school children.

For more info, click here.

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Singles Event Pick: Anti-Valentine’s Day Party

January 21st, 2010 — 1:37am

If you’re unattached on February 14th, there’s no better way to celebrate being solo than by mingling. And you can do just that at Pros In The City’s Anti-Valentine’s Day party.

Amnesia: Get your flirt on February 13th at this cavernous Midtown nightspot

Scheduled for Friday February 13th, the party will be held from 730-11pm at Amnesia nightclub. Along with icebreaker games, the evening includes hors d’oeuvres and drink specials from 8-9pm, prize giveaways and DJ dancing.

Dress code is business casual and tix are $19.99 if purchased by this Friday. Click here for more info.

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Singles Event Pick: Anti-Valentine’s Day Party

January 20th, 2010 — 8:37pm

If you’re unattached on February 14th, there’s no better way to celebrate being solo than by mingling. And you can do just that at Pros In The City’s Anti-Valentine’s Day party.

Amnesia: Get your flirt on February 13th at this cavernous Midtown nightspot

Scheduled for Friday February 13th, the party will be held from 730-11pm at Amnesia nightclub. Along with icebreaker games, the evening includes hors d’oeuvres and drink specials from 8-9pm, prize giveaways and DJ dancing.

Dress code is business casual and tix are $19.99 if purchased by this Friday. Click here for more info.

2 comments » | Amnesia nightclub, anti-Valentine's Day events, Midtown NYC, Professionals In The City, singles events

A Delightful Dinner At Rue 57

January 8th, 2010 — 7:15pm

Last night, I met up with London-based longtime family friends Charles and Diane at Rue 57 in Midtown.

Rue 57: One of Midtown NYC’s best bistros

One of my favorite restaurants, Rue 57 serves up an expansive menu of pasta, steak and seafood (including sushi) in an inviting bistro setting. The wait staff is always friendly and swift, the food delicious.

Over a delightful dinner (potato crusted salmon with crimini mushrooms and Barolo sauce for me), we talked about cruise travel, shopping in NYC and the various phases of romance.

Charles and Di will celebrate their 35th anniversary later this year, while their son Kane is in the throes of true love with his girlfriend of eighteen months.

The young lovebirds are navigating the interfaith terrain — he’s Jewish, she’s Protestant. We all agreed that, as my late and beloved parents demonstrated so beautifully, a religious divide needn’t be an insurmountable obstacle. And that if it is, you tend to know early on (like, for example, the JDate guy awhile back who bolted after 60 minutes upon learning I’m Catholic).

I also shared with Charles and Di my Grand 2010 Plan, and they shared my excitement about what lies ahead during this decade-launching year. Stay tuned for details, including how Single Gal In The City readers will be a big part of the fun.

Coming up…a record-breaking singles event and a Broadway smash gets a cast makeover.

Comment » | celebrating 2010, interfaith relationships, Midtown NYC, Rue 57, Single Gal In The City

A Delightful Dinner At Rue 57

January 8th, 2010 — 2:15pm

Last night, I met up with London-based longtime family friends Charles and Diane at Rue 57 in Midtown.

Rue 57: One of Midtown NYC’s best bistros

One of my favorite restaurants, Rue 57 serves up an expansive menu of pasta, steak and seafood (including sushi) in an inviting bistro setting. The wait staff is always friendly and swift, the food delicious.

Over a delightful dinner (potato crusted salmon with crimini mushrooms and Barolo sauce for me), we talked about cruise travel, shopping in NYC and the various phases of romance.

Charles and Di will celebrate their 35th anniversary later this year, while their son Kane is in the throes of true love with his girlfriend of eighteen months.

The young lovebirds are navigating the interfaith terrain — he’s Jewish, she’s Protestant. We all agreed that, as my late and beloved parents demonstrated so beautifully, a religious divide needn’t be an insurmountable obstacle. And that if it is, you tend to know early on (like, for example, the JDate guy awhile back who bolted after 60 minutes upon learning I’m Catholic).

I also shared with Charles and Di my Grand 2010 Plan, and they shared my excitement about what lies ahead during this decade-launching year. Stay tuned for details, including how Single Gal In The City readers will be a big part of the fun.

Coming up…a record-breaking singles event and a Broadway smash gets a cast makeover.

Comment » | celebrating 2010, interfaith relationships, Midtown NYC, Rue 57, Single Gal In The City

Girls Day Out: Midtown East

December 30th, 2009 — 9:46pm


Tuesday, my friend Bobbi and I enjoyed an afternoon of pampering at Metamorphosis Day Spa in Midtown East.

Hidden away on the fifth floor of an office building, Metamorphosis offers quiet relaxation in a small yet well-outfitted setting. If you’re looking for a full-blown spa experience, though, this isn’t the place for it.

Metamorphosis has only a tiny relaxation room, and there’s no opportunity to unwind in a bathrobe before your treatment. I also had to ask where the shower was — there’s only one — so I could rinse off after my massage. That said, the staff is friendly, I thoroughly enjoyed my 50-minute Swedish Massage, and the heated table is a nice touch.

Afterward, Bobbi and I headed over to trendy nearby Italian bistro Serafina. Over a delicious late lunch (the vegetarian lasagna is light and delish), we talked about men who say one thing but do another and our travel plans for 2010.

Bobbi is an avid skier. It’s been about fifteen years since I’ve hit the slopes, so I think I might just have to join her this winter.

Coming up…dinner with a charming restaurateur and ringing in 2010 with The Lost Girls.

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