Stirring It Up With

September 9th, 2013 — 9:11pm

Thursday, I headed down to Sen in NYC’s Flatiron district for a game night event.

Part of the website’s Stir series for singles, this one featured Spontuneous — a fun new game that that tests your recall of favorite songs. I had the chance to try it out at home with a girlfriend and we had a blast. Charming, cute Spontuneous founder Rob Ridgeway and The Bachelor’s AshLee Frazier were on hand to get the fun started.

(from left) Ashlee Frazier and Rob Ridgeway joined in for a round of Spontuneous

(from left) Ashlee Frazier and Rob Ridgeway joined in for a round of Spontuneous

Within a few minutes of arriving, I spotted’s Lori Bizzoco and dating coach Tracey Steinberg. Tracey filled me in about her upcoming book release (watch this space for a review), while Lori mentioned her site’s new contributor, the awesome Yolanda Shoshana.

Lori and I also got to talking about dating. She shared that it wasn’t until years after she initially connected online with her husband that she gave him a chance. He proposed nine weeks later.

As I looked around the room at my fellow singles, I felt a weariness settle in — no doubt the result of having attended many similar events over the years. Even with a fun premise like game night, it doesn’t entirely mitigate the awkwardness of being in a room with strangers whose only commonality is their dating status.

And so, my latest resolution was decided: a much-needed break from singles events.  Meeting new people is a lot easier when it happens organically, through shared interests that have nothing to do with being unattached.

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August 18th, 2013 — 8:53pm

When it comes to online dating, I’m a big fan of anything that makes it easier to take the connection offline and in person.’s Stir events across the U.S. are geared toward this and now the website is adding a game night series to the mix.

Match has partnered with seven board game manufacturers to provide singles with a combination of icebreakers and party games. Having attended a few happy hour Stir events and been underwhelmed, I think this approach sounds more effective, not to mention a lot more fun. has launched a game night series of events (photo courtesy: has launched a game night series of events (photo courtesy:

To make it easy to concentrate on mingling and enjoying the game, tables are set up in advance and include easy-to-read game instruction cards, so you don’t have to fumble around with lengthy, confusing directions. facilitators lead singles through the games.

Players rotate from table to table between rounds, giving everyone a chance to mix and mingle while playing up to seven different games.  Attendees are also provided with a selection of games to play on their own as icebreakers, while connecting with other singles.

Game night events are taking place now through the fall at bars and restaurants in select cities including NYC. Stir events are open to members and their guests. I’m looking forward to checking out the September 5th outing featuring musical game Spontuneous. Stay tuned for a recap.

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Sponsored Post:’s Singles in America Study

February 13th, 2013 — 8:31pm

There’s hope for the institution of marriage…and bad dental hygiene is a dealbreaker. Those are among the key findings in’s third annual Singles in America study.

The dating website recently polled nearly 5,500 singles (50-50 men/women) from the ages of 21-71+. Singles were asked about everything from sex and marriage to, of course, technology and how it has affected dating.’s Chief Scientific Advisor Dr. Helen Fisher presented the study’s findings at a livestream event on Saturday.

When it comes to first impressions, the top two things both men and women judge by are teeth and grammar.

This playful video riffs on the three things men notice first about women, according to's survey

“Your teeth say a great deal about your health, your youth and your fertility,” Fisher explained. “The brain is programmed to look for signs about [these things] at any age…And we’re in the age where communication is power. It’s how you can present yourself that makes a real difference.”

Teeth and grammar are the first two things both men and women notice about each other. The third thing, though, differs by gender — as depicted in a clever video illustrating what men look at first. Hair is the third thing men judge women by, while clothes rounds out the top three for women about men.

Bottom line – appearance matters when you’re trying to attract the opposite sex.

According to the study, more than two thirds of men and women in their twenties and thirties say they want to get married, and 90% those open to marriage believe they can stay married to the same person forever. Having similar ethnic or religious backgrounds to a partner isn’t a must — only 30% of men and 40% of women consider that very important.

“We’re shedding 10,000 years of our basic traditions and turning to something which in my opinion is even healthier,” Fisher says. “– A real personal connection to somebody else.”

When it comes to researching a date on Facebook, I’m actually with the 49% of men who consider it unacceptable. While many would argue that it’s a necessity in this age of online dating where you never really know who you’re connecting with, I think common sense is just as powerful as the Internet’s search function. Dating existed long before the days of FB, Google and the like, and singles were required to trust their intuition and actually get to know someone.

My exception to this would be if your instincts are already telling you something is amiss. But if you’re just snooping around online to pry into your date’s life, I say skip it and save your questions for when you’re face to face.

You can find out more about the Singles in America study here.

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Sponsored Post: Stirring It Up With

September 30th, 2012 — 10:27pm

Thursday night, I attended my second Stir event — a cooking-themed night at Kitchen in Midtown East.

While waiting for the doors to open, I chatted with four fellow single gals. As we watched the line grow with far more women than men, we wondered what we were in for. Thankfully, the ratio was much more balanced once the event started.

The crowd at's Stir event

With its soft lighting and cozy vibe, Kitchen provided an ideal backdrop for mingling. On the menu, a delicious selection of hors d’oeuvres (sliders, beef satay, curry meatballs) and open bar. I was a little disappointed that the extent of the cooking was limited to watching the chefs in an open kitchen. But that didn’t seem to impact the co-ed fraternizing.

I talked to four very different guys. Among them — an adorable New Jersey native and doting dad, and a former restaurant manager turned nursing student with a penchant for wine. Still, as the evening winded down, the only numbers I ended up exchanging were with the bachelorettes I met initially.

Bottom line — the Stir concept is a good one, but I think it’s more effective when you’re engaged in an activity instead of just at ye olde singles mixer. Next time, I’d like to try one of Match’s many interest-based Stir events — wine/tequila tastings, bowling and rock climbing among them.

FYI..Match’s large scale happy hour events are free and open to both registered and subscribed members, while more intimate interest-based events are only offered to subscribers at a fee. members can learn about and sign up for these events via under the “Events” header on the site.

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Sponsored Post: Stir Up Your Dating Life With

August 7th, 2012 — 2:09pm

Friday night, my friend BrainyPintsizer and I headed over to The Terrace Club in Midtown for’s Mix Up Your Dating life party with Single Edition Media.

The fun and fabulous crowd of bloggers

The event attracted some of my favorite superstar bloggers and fellow Single Edition members – including Simone Grant, Jess Downey, Sex, Lies & Bacon’s Melysa Schmidt, The Big Girl Blog’s CeCa Olisa, Bad Online Dates’ Jennifer Kelton, SingleMamaNYC’s Issa Mas and Funky Brown Chick’s Twanna Hines and eFlirtExpert’s Laurie Davis.

All smiles with eFlirtexpert's Laurie Davis

While enjoying cocktails and hors d’oeuvres – along with great views of Rockefeller Center and St. Patrick’s Cathedral – we got the scoop on’s new Stir Events. The site’s relationship expert Whitney Casey introduced events director Nuveen, who talked about how Stir is bridging the gap between online and offline connecting. Relationship Expert Whitney Casey welcomed the crowd

I wasn’t surprised to hear Nuveen say that several Stir guests have connected with individuals they never would have glanced at twice online. I experienced that when I attended a Stir happy hour at Butter Restaurant in NoHo a few months ago – and ended up chatting (and then going out with) a guy who didn’t fit my usual ‘type.’

Readers of this blog know I’m a big believer in stepping away from the computer and meeting people through common interests and fun activities. Match’s Stir events help singles do just that, with everything from cooking classes and rock climbing to dance lessons and tequila tastings. And no need to worry about lopsided age or male/female ratios — each event is customized through the site’s matching algorithms so you’re attending events with like-minded singles.

Happy Hour events are free and open to both registered and subscribed members — members can also bring friends to happy hours — while the interest-based events are only offered to subscribers at a fee. members can learn about and sign up for these events via under the Events header on the site.

The Stir initiative is rapidly expanding – this month alone, Match is hosting nearly 200 events in more than 62 markets across the country. I’ll be attending another Stir event soon, watch this space for an inside report.

I’m also excited to announce that is giving away free subscriptions to three lucky Single Gal In The City readers! To enter the giveaway, post a comment below no later August 29th answering the following question: what’s your favorite way to stir up your love life?

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Girls Night Out: Lower East Side

December 10th, 2011 — 7:21pm

Thursday night, I headed down to the Lower East Side with my friend Natalie for a Blackbook Magazine party at swanky hotspot Ludlow Manor.

The event featured cute bartenders, a variety of vodka cocktails – including a chocolate raspberry mango concoction (jury’s still out on that one) – and a flip video booth where you could dress up in flapper style or holiday garb.

Natalie and me at Ludlow Manor

As Natalie and I took in the crowd of pretty people, we talked about favorite dishes to cook at home and how second dates are sometimes more nerve-wracking than first ones. Speaking of dating, the subject of single gal Jessica Sporty came up. Sporty made headlines this week for revealing that she spent a month targeting bachelors who would pay for dinner so she could save money.

Of course, Good Morning America and the other news shows that covered her story played up the golddigging angle. While I don’t subscribe to the notion of going out strictly for a free meal, I agree with Jessica’s sentiment that a guy can and should pay on the first date – and I appreciated her willingness to make no apologies for it.

In this day and age, the lines between romance and modern mores have become increasingly blurred. Women feel guilty for wanting to be courted. Men worry about being perceived as questioning a woman’s independence. The end result?

I miss dating in the 90’s.

As I told Natalie the other night and at the risk of sounding like an old fogey, dating in that decade required a lot less second guessing than it does today. If a man was single in his thirties or forties, you didn’t have to wonder if it was because he was resisting commitment at all costs. And if you wanted to get to know someone, you actually picked up the phone between dates and had a conversation — a nicety that seems to have gone by the wayside in this era of texting, email, etc.

Bottom line — there’s something to be said for dating old school style. As one of my Twitter followers @Gabdate said–

“If enough of us start going old school, we will bring it back. You just watch.”

Sounds good to me. Who’s with us?

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From Online Dating To Happily Ever After

June 4th, 2011 — 6:31pm

Having had my fair share of online dating disasters over the years, I’ve come to believe that cyberspace isn’t for all singles.

I’ve become fond of saying that online dating is like gambling — there are the few that hit the jackpot and then there’s everyone else. And yet sometimes, all it takes is the lucky few to make you believe otherwise.

Over the last week, two friends of mine have gotten engaged to men they connected with online.

Galpal Julie met her fiance Brian on OkCupid last summer. In addition to being crazy about her, Brian pays close attention to the little things — as I learned when Julie shared how he proposed.

Knowing Julie is a Food Network fan, Brian surprised her with reservations at a favorite celebrity chef’s restaurant. The maitre’d came out and extended the chef’s apologies for not being on property that night to welcome them (Brian had called ahead), offering them complimentary dessert and drinks.

After a stroll across the Brooklyn Bridge at sunset, Brian honored Julie’s wishes to keep their special moment private, proposing to her in a heartfelt speech at home.

An intimate setting also provided the backdrop for Cleveland galpal Jen’s engagement.

Jen was one of the fabulous single gals I connected with during my US Dating Blitz last year. A few months later, she emailed me to say she’d met someone on Match.

“Matthew is absolutely fantastic and everything that I didn’t really think existed.”

The other night, Jen came home from work to find Matthew in the driveway with a handful of roses.

“He told me how much he loved me and how he wished he could give me flowers every day that he knew me.  I still had no idea anything was up.”

All of that changed when they went inside the entire house was covered in roses — 362 for each day they’ve known each other. Brian wrapped his arms around her and popped the question.

Both Jen and Julie had zero expectations of online dating, yet they both managed to find their ideal mate. Best of all, each of them were already living full, happy lives and fully comfortable in their own skin before meeting Mr. Right. Throw in a little help from Cupid and you can’t find a better recipe for happily ever after than that.

Congratulations, ladies!!

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A Memorable First Date Resurfaces

April 2nd, 2011 — 3:37pm

There are some first dates that you always remember — and yet, never expect to hear from again. The very first bachelor of my US Dating Blitz last year, Dave, fell into this category.

As I described here when Dave and I met up after connecting on, he took me out for a great night in Cleveland — five-star meal, first-class conversation, post-dinner smooching. Then he shocked me with his question about whether I like to, ahem, have my salad tossed.

After our date, Dave sent me a couple of racy text messages to which I didn’t respond. So imagine my surprise when he resurfaced in a text last week.

“Was I your most fun date on your tour around the country?”

I laughed, tempted to thank him for providing me a with first date story I never tire of telling. He had another question for me–

“Did I make the book?”

I had told Dave when we went out that I would be writing a book about my adventures. Funnily enough, it never occurred to me that his x-rated inquiry might have been prompted by that. So does he or does he not have a derriere fixation? Dave offered me the chance to find out.

“If you’re ever back here in Cleveland, you know my door is open and I’ll take good care of you :),” he texted.

It would almost be worth making the trip just to see what he might ask on date #2.

2 comments » | first date ettiquette, first dates,, online dating, The Great Dating Blitz

Casting Call: Commercials

October 13th, 2010 — 5:32pm

If you’ve ever wanted to be in one of those cheesy actual first date commercials — here’s your chance.

The online dating giant is filming a series of the spots in New York. They’re looking for NYC singles (men and women) 25 and up to go on an all-expense paid date that will be filmed documentary style for the commercials.

Casting wraps up at the end of this week, so if you’re interested, send a recent photo, as well as a brief description of yourself and your dating history ASAP to Erica at Picture Shack Entertainment at and tell her Single Gal In The City sent you.

An editorial note: SGITC will be moving to an every other day posting schedule from now on. On most of my ‘off days,’ you can find me blogging over at

Coming up…a special discount for SGITC readers at a fabulous beauty event and the scoop on my first date in ages with a much younger guy.

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London: Day Two

September 1st, 2010 — 5:04pm

Last Wednesday, I headed over to London’s Hampstead Heath to meet up with single gal Kimberly, 35.

Single Gals In London: Kimberly and me at The Flask

I knew Kimberly was someone I wanted to talk to when she sent me an email including this wry observation–

“ In Paris guys want to tell you how to live your life…in London they want to know how you live your life.”

Over lunch at cozy pub The Flask, Kimberly — a Canada native who’s lived in L.A. and Paris and now London — gave me her take on dating in Europe.

Parisians are very forward, she says, with a kiss being interpreted as wanting to have sex.

“So much in Paris is about sex,” she said. “It’s a romantic looking city, but there are tons of drageurs, pick up artists. It’s not uncommon to meet in the street.”

Kim found the culture of Paris to be restrictive, with men and women dressing a certain way and people often telling her to look or behave a certain way to attract a man.

“In London, people make their own style, and are more interested in what makes you you than trying to fit you into a certain persona,” she said.

Another big difference — being able to go out in London alone without being judged as lonely because you’re on your own.

Kim has no complaints about local bachelors when it comes to taking initiative.

“People say British men are shy, but I find they’re very direct. I guess asking me ‘where are you from?’ is a good icebreaker.”

Not for the first time on this European adventure, I couldn’t help thinking how different the dating experience for expats seems to be from what it is for native locals. A foreign accent really seems to be the ultimate icebreaker. It’s far from the only one, though. The challenge is getting singles — male and female — to see that and make the first move with people who aren’t from somewhere else.

Coming up…how’s UK site produced the best and worst online dating experiences I’ve had in ages.

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