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The Downside of Virtual Flirting

December 1st, 2009 — 12:40am

When you’re single, social networking often takes on a whole new dimension — as I discovered not too long ago with a brief Twitter flirtation.

It began with a direct message from Tom, one of my Twitter followers and a Connecticut-based fellow PR practitioner. Our conversation moved quickly from business practices in a down economy to playful banter.

Referencing my Twitter bio, which mentions a previous stint in broadcast news, Tom said —

“Well, you’re TV gorgeous.”

A few more direct messages and texts later, we were sharing favorite cocktails and planning to get together in person. Tom asked me when I was Connecticut-bound, and I countered with asking when he was coming to the city.

“Whenever you say yes to letting me buy you drinks,” he replied.

Though our e-flirting didn’t end up materializing into a date, I couldn’t help thinking about how the Internet, text messaging and the like have become a double-edged sword when it comes to romance.

For as much as technology makes it easier to interact with new people, it also makes truly connecting more difficult — because it has overtaken traditional methods of communication like ye old telephone.

Whatever happened to the ritual of extending a date invitation by phone? Or following up after a great date with an actual conversation instead of a text message? You can say a lot more by using your voice than you can with your Blackberry.

Which is why I’m happy to skip the virtual flirting in favor of making connections through more old fashioned means — speed dating.

Comment » | Blackberry, calling instead of emailing or texting, online flirting, speed dating, Twitter

The Downside of Virtual Flirting

November 30th, 2009 — 7:40pm

When you’re single, social networking often takes on a whole new dimension — as I discovered not too long ago with a brief Twitter flirtation.

It began with a direct message from Tom, one of my Twitter followers and a Connecticut-based fellow PR practitioner. Our conversation moved quickly from business practices in a down economy to playful banter.

Referencing my Twitter bio, which mentions a previous stint in broadcast news, Tom said —

“Well, you’re TV gorgeous.”

A few more direct messages and texts later, we were sharing favorite cocktails and planning to get together in person. Tom asked me when I was Connecticut-bound, and I countered with asking when he was coming to the city.

“Whenever you say yes to letting me buy you drinks,” he replied.

Though our e-flirting didn’t end up materializing into a date, I couldn’t help thinking about how the Internet, text messaging and the like have become a double-edged sword when it comes to romance.

For as much as technology makes it easier to interact with new people, it also makes truly connecting more difficult — because it has overtaken traditional methods of communication like ye old telephone.

Whatever happened to the ritual of extending a date invitation by phone? Or following up after a great date with an actual conversation instead of a text message? You can say a lot more by using your voice than you can with your Blackberry.

Which is why I’m happy to skip the virtual flirting in favor of making connections through more old fashioned means — speed dating.

Comment » | Blackberry, calling instead of emailing or texting, online flirting, speed dating, Twitter

Second Date With A JDater

October 2nd, 2009 — 9:30pm

Wednesday night, my action-packed evening continued at Upper East Side restaurant Trata, where I met up with JDate.com member and pet pharmacist Scott.

Trata: Scott and I met up for drinks at this lively UES Greek restaurant and bar

Having come straight from the gym, Scott showed up wearing spandex shorts, a baseball cap and lots of cologne. Not my first choice for date attire, but his impish grin and warm greeting helped me get past it.

It had been four months since our previous date, so we talked about how we spent our respective summers. Scott spent most of his on the beach at Fire Island, co-habitating with six female friends.

Speaking of other women, Scott’s Blackberry buzzed while he was in the restroom. I stole a quick glance at it (I know, tsk tsk), noticing a message from ‘Nicole-J Date’ that she was looking forward to seeing him. A message next to hers from me was filed under my JDate username. Ahh, the romance of online dating.

Though it was fun catching up with Scott, date #2 confirmed we’re better off as friends – and reminded me that, the older you get, the quicker you can tell whether or not there’s a mutual spark.

Seeing Scott also got me to thinking how much more fun it is to be on the prowl when you’re not doing it through cyberspace. Tonight, one of my best galpals and I will be heading down to one of NYC’s hottest neighborhoods for some mingling. Watch this space to see where the night takes us.

1 comment » | Blackberry, JDate.com, online dating, second dates, Trata restaurant, Upper East Side

Second Date With A JDater

October 2nd, 2009 — 4:30pm

Wednesday night, my action-packed evening continued at Upper East Side restaurant Trata, where I met up with JDate.com member and pet pharmacist Scott.

Trata: Scott and I met up for drinks at this lively UES Greek restaurant and bar

Having come straight from the gym, Scott showed up wearing spandex shorts, a baseball cap and lots of cologne. Not my first choice for date attire, but his impish grin and warm greeting helped me get past it.

It had been four months since our previous date, so we talked about how we spent our respective summers. Scott spent most of his on the beach at Fire Island, co-habitating with six female friends.

Speaking of other women, Scott’s Blackberry buzzed while he was in the restroom. I stole a quick glance at it (I know, tsk tsk), noticing a message from ‘Nicole-J Date’ that she was looking forward to seeing him. A message next to hers from me was filed under my JDate username. Ahh, the romance of online dating.

Though it was fun catching up with Scott, date #2 confirmed we’re better off as friends – and reminded me that, the older you get, the quicker you can tell whether or not there’s a mutual spark.

Seeing Scott also got me to thinking how much more fun it is to be on the prowl when you’re not doing it through cyberspace. Tonight, one of my best galpals and I will be heading down to one of NYC’s hottest neighborhoods for some mingling. Watch this space to see where the night takes us.

1 comment » | Blackberry, JDate.com, online dating, second dates, Trata restaurant, Upper East Side

By The Numbers: Online Dating Edition

March 21st, 2009 — 5:38pm

Last night, a subway ride with some of my work galpals found us talking about the vagaries of online dating.

A fellow single gal chimed in about her experience with a guy who couldn’t tear himself away from his Blackberry during their date. I could empathize, having just spoken with a JDater who interrupted our conversation three minutes into it to take another call. Given that his online handle is Crackberry69, I suppose I shouldn’t have been too surprised.

This latest go round of Internet dating has had its share of surprises (good and bad). Here are a few of them — By The Numbers:

Number of guys from Match.com and JDate.com who have emailed me: 34
Number of first dates: 2
Number of JDate men whose emails began with what I have in common with his ex wife: 1
Number of Match.com women who’ve sent me flirtatious emails: 1
Number of communications (phone and email) it took to schedule a date with
Chris: 10

A 39-year-old New Jersey-based Match.com guy who works in finance, Chris shares my penchant for travel and modern rock bands. We’re meeting for afternoon drinks in Midtown today.

Up next…surviving my first ride on a mechanical bull and running into a friend from my journalism school days.

3 comments » | Blackberry, Crackberry, first dates, JDate.com, Match.com, mechanical bull rides, online dating

By The Numbers: Online Dating Edition

March 21st, 2009 — 12:38pm

Last night, a subway ride with some of my work galpals found us talking about the vagaries of online dating.

A fellow single gal chimed in about her experience with a guy who couldn’t tear himself away from his Blackberry during their date. I could empathize, having just spoken with a JDater who interrupted our conversation three minutes into it to take another call. Given that his online handle is Crackberry69, I suppose I shouldn’t have been too surprised.

This latest go round of Internet dating has had its share of surprises (good and bad). Here are a few of them — By The Numbers:

Number of guys from Match.com and JDate.com who have emailed me: 34
Number of first dates: 2
Number of JDate men whose emails began with what I have in common with his ex wife: 1
Number of Match.com women who’ve sent me flirtatious emails: 1
Number of communications (phone and email) it took to schedule a date with
Chris: 10

A 39-year-old New Jersey-based Match.com guy who works in finance, Chris shares my penchant for travel and modern rock bands. We’re meeting for afternoon drinks in Midtown today.

Up next…surviving my first ride on a mechanical bull and running into a friend from my journalism school days.

3 comments » | Blackberry, Crackberry, first dates, JDate.com, Match.com, mechanical bull rides, online dating

Requiem for the Telephone

August 4th, 2008 — 12:43am

Earlier this week, H, a guy scheduled to attend a concert with me, decided to cancel — via text message. H’s decision to cancel our date using an alternate communication method led me to wonder, whatever happened to picking up the phone?

We live in an era where technology enables us to be connected 24/7. And yet, despite email, instant messaging, text messaging, Blackberry devices and the like, it seems like there’s becoming more and more of a disconnect, at least when it comes to what is considered appropriate to communicate in a high-tech fashion.

H’s text is only the latest example that I’ve experienced of this unfortunate trend that would have Miss Manners pointing a disapproving finger at the opposite sex.

During my Match.com days, a guy cancelled our Sunday evening date by sending an email to my work account. Never mind the fact that he had my number and had lamented only days before the disappearing use of the telephone.

In the same vein, a real estate analyst tethered at all times to his Blackberry chose to confirm our recent after-work date by sending me an email after 6pm instead of calling. I happened to log on from home that night, opting to forgive his gaffe and meet him for a drink — an exception which occurred strictly because I was craving a goodnight kiss and knew he would deliver.

Perhaps this is a hopelessly antiquated notion, but I think picking up the phone remains the most appropriate way to cancel or change plans. Emails can go astray, as can text messages. Calling and or leaving a voicemail demonstrates respect and consideration for another person’s time. And there’s nothing antiquated about that.

1 comment » | Blackberry, Email, Match.com, Telephone

Requiem for the Telephone

August 3rd, 2008 — 7:43pm

Earlier this week, H, a guy scheduled to attend a concert with me, decided to cancel — via text message. H’s decision to cancel our date using an alternate communication method led me to wonder, whatever happened to picking up the phone?

We live in an era where technology enables us to be connected 24/7. And yet, despite email, instant messaging, text messaging, Blackberry devices and the like, it seems like there’s becoming more and more of a disconnect, at least when it comes to what is considered appropriate to communicate in a high-tech fashion.

H’s text is only the latest example that I’ve experienced of this unfortunate trend that would have Miss Manners pointing a disapproving finger at the opposite sex.

During my Match.com days, a guy cancelled our Sunday evening date by sending an email to my work account. Never mind the fact that he had my number and had lamented only days before the disappearing use of the telephone.

In the same vein, a real estate analyst tethered at all times to his Blackberry chose to confirm our recent after-work date by sending me an email after 6pm instead of calling. I happened to log on from home that night, opting to forgive his gaffe and meet him for a drink — an exception which occurred strictly because I was craving a goodnight kiss and knew he would deliver.

Perhaps this is a hopelessly antiquated notion, but I think picking up the phone remains the most appropriate way to cancel or change plans. Emails can go astray, as can text messages. Calling and or leaving a voicemail demonstrates respect and consideration for another person’s time. And there’s nothing antiquated about that.

1 comment » | Blackberry, Email, Match.com, Telephone

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