Category: finding Mr. Right


Finding Inspiration From Fabulous Women

March 12th, 2014 — 9:46pm

When you write about dating and relationships, you feel a special kinship with others who are doing the same – and adding something valuable to the conversation.

As I currently enjoy Melanie Notkin’s fantastic new book Otherhood (full review to come), I have also connected with two other women whose stories are worth sharing.

Michelle Ortega moved to NYC following the end of her 13-year marriage, finding herself single at 40. She found the best tonic for it in talking to other single women. Michelle shares that experience in here new documentary, The Single Ladies of NY, which follows women of different ages looking for love in the Big Apple.

“The greatest comfort I got was through talking to other single women,” she says. “Gaining their wisdom, experiences, being able to laugh off bad dates, lack of dates, and embarrassing situations. I thought younger women would have it easier, but they have their own set of challenges!“

You can see a trailer and help support the film’s fundraising campaign by visiting the film’s Kickstarter page.

New Jersey-based matchmaker and singles event host Risa Glaser is an inspiring example that there’s no expiration date for finding love.

For the past 7 years, Risa has helped single people meet by offering personalized matchmaking services in addition to hosting 8MinuteDating speed dating and “Dating for a Cause” events.

Four years ago, Risa was hosting an evening of 8 Minute Dating when one of the bachelors in attendance asked her–

“Are you just running this event, or are you single too?”

Upon learning she was indeed single, he asked her out. They’re getting married this month. It’s Risa’s first time walking down the aisle – at the age of 50.

“I’m proof that it’s never too late to find love – and that gives single people of all ages a reason for hope,” she says.

With spring slowly but surely approaching, it’s the perfect time of year for renewed hope when it comes to love and romance. And I’m thankful to the women above for helping all of us single gals out there rediscover that.

Comment » | being single in New York, being single in your thirties, finding Mr. Right

An SPG Event To Remember

July 28th, 2013 — 8:42pm

There are some moments that remind you everything happens the way it’s supposed to. Since joining Starwood Hotels nearly one year ago, I’ve felt this time and time again – and Thursday that happy sentiment resurfaced in a big way.

The occasion – Starwood Preferred Guest’s Gavin DeGraw concert at the Sheraton New York Times Square.

Ready for his closeup: Gavin DeGraw in the Sheraton's Penthouse Suite

Ready for his closeup: Gavin DeGraw in the Sheraton’s Penthouse Suite

Part of SPG’s Hear The Music, See The World series for members, Thursday night’s event reinforced how fortunate I am to be in the hospitality industry. And I know it’s not just because I’m a relative newbie. At one point, one of my seasoned Starwood colleagues said  she’s still amazed by the great experiences we get to be a part of and help bring to life.

I couldn’t help echoing her sentiments, as we observed a wine tasting in the Sheraton’s Penthouse Suite for a handful of journalists – and Gavin DeGraw. The singer/songwriter couldn’t be more adorable or gracious. He made it a point to introduce himself to everyone.

“Hi, I’m Gavin,” he said to me with a smile as he extended his hand.

I somehow managed to resist the temptation to respond, And I’m seriously swooning over here.

Accompanying me for the evening’s festivities, PR consultant and longtime friend Jen Maguire.

All smiles: Jen and me with our staff lanyards

All smiles: Jen and me with our staff lanyards

Jen was my initial entré into Starwood when she forwarded me an email from one of her marketing contacts in the company. I finally got to meet said contact Thursday night and thank her in person for getting me an interview last summer. Talk about a full circle moment.

The event officially kicked off with Sheraton Social Hour, a branded experience featuring a selection of premium wines – and for this special night, paired with mouth watering hors d’oeuvres.

Standing room only: the SPG crowd at Sheraton Social Hour

Standing room only: the SPG crowd at Sheraton Social Hour

On the menu: scallops with truffle butter and creamy polenta, mini caprese sandwiches, a selection of pates and bacon wrapped shrimp. In a word, sublime.

My favorite surprise of the night – an appearance by actor and known oenophile Stanley Tucci. We chatted briefly about how much we both love London, as he’s about to move there. Love him.

Stanley Tucci and me!

Stanley Tucci and me!

Finally, it was time for the main attraction. I joined about 200 SPG members in Metropolitan Ballroom, transformed into an intimate lounge setting with white couches and purple lighting. As soon as Gavin took the stage with his band, the crowd was on its feet for his hit Sweeter.

Gavin DeGraw brought the house down

Gavin DeGraw brought the house down

Speaking of sweet, Gavin brought his effortless charm right into the audience and took multitasking to new level, singing as he shook hands, posed for pictures and made his way around the entire room. During his 75-minute set, he mingled beloved hits (Chariot, Follow Through, I Don’t Want To Be) with songs from his upcoming new album (Best I Ever Had, Make A Move). He ended, not surprisingly, with the transcendent, Not Over You.

As I stood there singing right along with him, I couldn’t help thinking how I’ve finally found my professional home. And the funny thing is, it literally came to me through that aforementioned email from Jen. I put out to the universe what I wanted in my career and, after a long and winding road of many jobs, I finally got it.

Who knows? Maybe there’s a lesson in that about finding Mr. Right. After all, if I could go from a wart-covered frog to the Prince Charming of jobs, that same trajectory just might be possible in my love life too.

Comment » | being happy at work, concerts, finding Mr. Right, job interviews, Sheraton New York Times Square

The Power of Positive Thinking

May 26th, 2013 — 8:44pm

It’s been another eventful week for me as I continue settling in to my expanded role as Marketing Manager for two hotels. Two video shoots and an all-day event at Grand Central Terminal were on the agenda, along with the first meeting with my new boss at the Westin.

Me and P. Diddy’s doppelganger: Alongside the celeb’s Madame Tussaud’s likeness during Grand Getaway day at GCT

Me and P. Diddy’s doppelganger: Alongside the celeb’s Madame Tussaud’s likeness during Grand Getaway day at GCT

During our get to know each other conversation, my boss and I ended up talking briefly about the winding road to settling down. She shared her experience of becoming a mother at 38 and then again at 44, and asked me about my marital status.

Practicing what I’ve been preaching lately about the powers of dating optimism (as discovered here), I declared that I’m single and hopeful about finding love. She quickly confided that she knows a 43-year-old bachelor who just happens to be looking for someone special.

I smiled, assuring her that I have no-fault matchmaking clause. As we both laughed, I couldn’t help thinking once again about the power of positive thinking. It’s easy to forget in the sea of noncommitment and cynicism that defines so much of dating in New York. But once you open your eyes to what exists beyond this crowded cityscape, you discover there is a lot to be positive about.

As my perspective has gradually shifted. I’ve noticed a new kind of momentum in my love life.  I feel energized, discovering that being open to the right relationship doesn’t mean exhausting yourself to find it.  Being happy and sure footed in your own life opens doors that remain firmly closed when you don’t allow yourself to dream big.

And really, isn’t dreaming big what life and love are all about?

Comment » | dating optimism, finding Mr. Right, Grand Central

Love Lessons From A Kitchen Makeover

March 24th, 2013 — 8:05pm

About seven months ago, I decided it was time to upgrade my kitchen and bathroom. Though I was forewarned by family and friends to prepare for delays and detours, I still couldn’t have imagined how all consuming this little home improvement project would become.

Work In Progress: What will eventually be my new kitchen and bathroom fixtures

As I near the end of my renovation odyssey, I can’t help thinking that some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way also apply to the search for love.

Never Assume (i.e. Ask The Right Questions) – My contractor assured me his company would take care of the paperwork needed for my co-op, so I assumed I didn’t have to do anything on my end. Until a month later when my superintendent happened to inform me I needed to fill out an alteration agreement. I could’ve avoided the four week delay if I had just asked the right questions, something that’s just as important to do when you’re in the early stages of dating someone new.

Expect The Unexpected – This seems like an obvious one, but I was still thrown for a loop when faced with crookedly hung cabinets, the delivery of backsplash tiles I didn’t order and minor construction mistakes shared with me after installation. No matter how much you plan, renovating is full of surprises and the same is true of dating.

The Timeline In Your Head Doesn’t Always Correspond To Reality – When I signed with my contractor back in November, I figured I would be cooking in my new kitchen by Valentine’s Day. That deadline came and went, a reminder that it doesn’t matter what time frame you have in your head for completing a major milestone. Life happens and this is especially true when it comes to the circuitous path of dating and mating. That doesn’t mean it won’t happen, only that it’s going to take a little longer.

With my newly made over kitchen and bathroom about a week or so away from being finished — fingers, toes and all other parts crossed, of course – I’m feeling hopeful about what lies ahead for my love life too.

Comment » | dating, dating advice, finding Mr. Right

Rediscovering NYC And The Possibility of Romance

February 23rd, 2013 — 8:45pm

There are some days that make you fall in love all over again with your hometown. For me, Wednesday was one of them.

It started with a visit to Alice Tully Hall at Lincoln Center, where I joined hundreds of fellow hospitality professionals for NYC & Company’s annual meeting.


NYC & Co. annual meeting generated excitement for the city’s soaring popularity as a travel destination

Speaking of new finds, my next stop was the Museum of Art and Design in Columbus Circle, where I met up with business associate Andrea. We headed up to Robert, the museum’s penthouse restaurant with fantastic views and a sleek, modern décor that still manages to be both warm and inviting.

The Robert is a fabulous nightspot

Andrea shared the news that she recently married, which led to a lively conversation about the unexpected journey to finding Mr. Right.

Andrea met her hubby on JDate a year ago, admitting that on paper, he seemed completely different from her usual type. She decided to give him a chance despite opposite schedules and some challenges from living in different boroughs (he’s a Brooklynite, she lives in Manhattan). She said the right relationship is worth the effort — and it tends to happen pretty quickly when you come upon it.

My friend Rachel would no doubt agree with her. When I caught up with Rachel in London last August, she was single and not dating. Just six months later, she’s engaged and planning a 2014 wedding.

Andrea and Rachel are about ten years apart in age, which I can’t help viewing as an encouraging reminder that — contrary to how single women over 35 are often portrayed in the media —  there’s no expiration date when it comes to finding love. You just have to keep yourself open to it. That and embracing the digital possibilities for romance today.

Congratulations, ladies.

Comment » | finding Mr. Right, Girls Night Out, online dating

Questioning How Many Times Cupid Comes Calling

September 14th, 2011 — 9:11pm

During a recent trip to the movies, I saw a trailer for the upcoming Anna Faris flick, “What’s Your Number?” The film’s premise got me thinking once again — do you get a limited number of chances for finding love?

Anna Faris muses about recycling exes in this EXCLUSIVE clip

Faris’ character begins to think so, after reading an article that says you’re out of luck if you’ve had 20 or more relationships. Of course, she’s hardly the first pop culture character to voice this anxiety. Remember that Sex And The City episode where Charlotte tells Carrie women only get two great loves?

By that standard, I’m in trouble. But even though I’m safely under the 20 threshhold (assuming, that is, that relationships of less than three months duration don’t count), I can’t help questioning the odds now that I’m closer to 40 than 30. Especially when I’ve already recycled the exes worth recycling, and the opportunities to connect seem fleeting at best, in a city where the dating equivalent of ADD runs rampant.

Recent cases in point, courtesy of OkCupid.com: a Connecticut-based bachelor who immediately gave me his number, proceeded to call me twice and then disappear; a fellow Upper East Sider who called and texted multiple times while out of town, suggested dinner upon his return, then also pulled a vanishing act.

Though these kinds of things are par for the course with online dating, I can’t help wondering if there is indeed an expiration date on getting to happily ever after. If you turn Cupid down enough times for one reason or another, does he eventually make like an ex-boyfriend and move on?

I’m guessing “What’s Your Number?” has an optimistic answer to that question. In the meantime, click here or on the above link for an exclusive and hilarious clip of Anna Faris talking about the merits of recycling past loves.

What’s your take on going back to an old flame?

2 comments » | finding Mr. Right, OKCupid, online dating, Sex and The City

From Online Dating To Happily Ever After

June 4th, 2011 — 6:31pm

Having had my fair share of online dating disasters over the years, I’ve come to believe that cyberspace isn’t for all singles.

I’ve become fond of saying that online dating is like gambling — there are the few that hit the jackpot and then there’s everyone else. And yet sometimes, all it takes is the lucky few to make you believe otherwise.

Over the last week, two friends of mine have gotten engaged to men they connected with online.

Galpal Julie met her fiance Brian on OkCupid last summer. In addition to being crazy about her, Brian pays close attention to the little things — as I learned when Julie shared how he proposed.

Knowing Julie is a Food Network fan, Brian surprised her with reservations at a favorite celebrity chef’s restaurant. The maitre’d came out and extended the chef’s apologies for not being on property that night to welcome them (Brian had called ahead), offering them complimentary dessert and drinks.

After a stroll across the Brooklyn Bridge at sunset, Brian honored Julie’s wishes to keep their special moment private, proposing to her in a heartfelt speech at home.

An intimate setting also provided the backdrop for Cleveland galpal Jen’s engagement.

Jen was one of the fabulous single gals I connected with during my US Dating Blitz last year. A few months later, she emailed me to say she’d met someone on Match.

“Matthew is absolutely fantastic and everything that I didn’t really think existed.”

The other night, Jen came home from work to find Matthew in the driveway with a handful of roses.

“He told me how much he loved me and how he wished he could give me flowers every day that he knew me.  I still had no idea anything was up.”

All of that changed when they went inside the entire house was covered in roses — 362 for each day they’ve known each other. Brian wrapped his arms around her and popped the question.

Both Jen and Julie had zero expectations of online dating, yet they both managed to find their ideal mate. Best of all, each of them were already living full, happy lives and fully comfortable in their own skin before meeting Mr. Right. Throw in a little help from Cupid and you can’t find a better recipe for happily ever after than that.

Congratulations, ladies!!

2 comments » | finding Mr. Right, Match.com, OKCupid, online dating

By The Numbers: Married Or Not Edition

February 28th, 2009 — 6:35pm

I recently went to my first-ever engagement party. The bride to be is my first galpal here in New York to find Mr. Right — so the occasion got me to thinking about the role of geography in finding true love.

The Big Apple doesn’t rate highly in most surveys about top dating destinations

Most of my friends who have tied the knot are from smaller cities. Many surveys support the idea that New York is a challenging place to be a single. The Big Apple failed to make either of The Top 10 lists in a Sperling roundup of best and worst dating cities in the U.S. (for the record, Austin, Texas was the winner).

In my own social circle, I’ve definitely seen the effect that where you reside has on who you end up with. Here are some examples of this dynamic — By The Numbers:

Number of married girlfriends: 7
Number of married girlfriends who live in NY: 1
Number of single girlfriends: 13
Number of single girlfriends who live in NY: 11
Number of NY girlfriends in serious relationships: 2
Number of NY girlfriends who found love within days of moving back to the Midwest: 1

One of my best friends once asked if it has ever occurred to me that my soul mate isn’t in New York. The honest answer to that is no. And not just because I’ve been there and done the long distance thing, or because I’m not open to Mr. Right candidates outside of my zip code.

No, it’s for the simple reason that home is where my heart is. And I believe that even in a competitive dating marketplace like NYC, when your heart is truly in the search for happily ever after, eventually–statistical odds be damned–you’ll find it.

Comment » | best and worst dating cities in the U.S., engagement parties, finding Mr. Right, NYC, Sperling survey, The Big Apple

By The Numbers: Married Or Not Edition

February 28th, 2009 — 1:35pm

I recently went to my first-ever engagement party. The bride to be is my first galpal here in New York to find Mr. Right — so the occasion got me to thinking about the role of geography in finding true love.

The Big Apple doesn’t rate highly in most surveys about top dating destinations

Most of my friends who have tied the knot are from smaller cities. Many surveys support the idea that New York is a challenging place to be a single. The Big Apple failed to make either of The Top 10 lists in a Sperling roundup of best and worst dating cities in the U.S. (for the record, Austin, Texas was the winner).

In my own social circle, I’ve definitely seen the effect that where you reside has on who you end up with. Here are some examples of this dynamic — By The Numbers:

Number of married girlfriends: 7
Number of married girlfriends who live in NY: 1
Number of single girlfriends: 13
Number of single girlfriends who live in NY: 11
Number of NY girlfriends in serious relationships: 2
Number of NY girlfriends who found love within days of moving back to the Midwest: 1

One of my best friends once asked if it has ever occurred to me that my soul mate isn’t in New York. The honest answer to that is no. And not just because I’ve been there and done the long distance thing, or because I’m not open to Mr. Right candidates outside of my zip code.

No, it’s for the simple reason that home is where my heart is. And I believe that even in a competitive dating marketplace like NYC, when your heart is truly in the search for happily ever after, eventually–statistical odds be damned–you’ll find it.

Comment » | best and worst dating cities in the U.S., engagement parties, finding Mr. Right, NYC, Sperling survey, The Big Apple

Girls Night Out In Westchester

February 17th, 2009 — 2:03am

Friday night, I headed out to Westchester for a belated birthday celebration with my friend and colleague Carla.

After picking me up at the train station with her gorgeous little girls — two-year-old Georgianna Jean and one-year-old Nancianne — in tow, the four of us went to Mary Ann’s for dinner.

Grinning Gals: Carla and one-year-old Nancianne during our girls night out

A cozy, casual Mexican chain, Mary Ann’s serves a mean chimichanga (I tried the ground beef and cheese varieties) and a chocolate confusion cake that leaves no doubt you’re in dessert heaven. A scrumptious mix of mousse and sponge cake, this is a must-have when you’re dining at Mary Ann’s.

From there, Carla and I dropped the little ones off, then drove over to a packed neighborhood pub for some cocktails and girl talk. On the conversational menu — applying PR savvy to the search for Mr. Right and gratitude for the good friends we’ve made through Quinn & Company. I’m especially thankful that Carla is one of them.

Up next…my first foray into NYC’s Fashion Week and a big Valentine’s night out.

Comment » | Fashion Week, finding Mr. Right, Girls Night Out, Mary Ann's Mexican restaurant, PR savvy, Quinn and Company

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