Category: flirting


Get Seriously Friendly: Say Hello And Pick Up A Date

October 11th, 2013 — 8:46pm

When it comes to meeting new people, the hardest part is often breaking the ice. But as I’ve recently discovered from ditching online dating and mingling more offline, taking that leap is always worth doing – and it’s a lot easier when you’re feeling your best.

hello

My pre-date prep for a night on the town

Two very different scenarios reminded me that a little flirtatiousness goes a long way — in a good way.

A few weeks ago, my fun evening with BW, a charming attorney from the South began with him stealing a line from his friend. Said friend introduced the girlfriend I was with as beautiful and amazing. BW immediately looked at me with a playful smile and without missing a beat, told his friend—

“And I’d like to introduce you to this beautiful, amazing woman.”

Okay, it was shameless flattery. But never underestimate the power of a well delivered line. Said with confidence or a winking nod, it can definitely do the trick, and you don’t have to go too far out on a ledge either. Case in point—M, an adorable event production assistant I met earlier this week through work.

The setting was hardly romantic — we were part of a team rounding up hundreds of gift bags for a swanky party. Still, I could feel something of a spark. And then, M noticed the necklace I was wearing and asked in a not quite nonchalant way,

“Was that a wedding gift?”

“No,” I happily informed him with a playful smile, “I’m single.”

We have a date for Monday.

In both of these situations, the men took the initiative to say something that got my attention. What if, as a woman, you’re not the bold type? Well, I’ve found time and again that just making eye contact and starting with a simple hello and how are you gets the job done.

Of course, to show up with your A-game, it helps to feel fabulous. One great new addition to my pre-date, pre-flirting routine—hello seriously friendly oral care products.

hello's perfectly portable breath spray

hello’s perfectly portable breath spray

I am smitten with hello’s Pink Grapefruit Mint toothpaste (one of several delicious flavors) and especially love that all their products are USA made and never tested on animals. And move over crinkled tubes, hello items are easy on the eyes too.

One of my favorite hello products—the pocket or purse friendly breath spray, which makes freshening up in a public a snap. I’m excited to announce that Single Gal In The City readers have the chance to win some great hello goodies! All you have to do is click on the entry form on the sidebar and share your favorite pickup line. My all time favorite? Read about it here.

You can find hello products at CVS, Duane Reade and Walgreen’s.

*Disclosure: This is a sponsored post for hello.

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When Flirting Gets Lost In Translation

October 25th, 2012 — 10:44pm

Last night, I headed to Midtown West for a long overdue girls night out with my dear friend Julie.

We met up at Cara Mia, a cozy Italian bistro in Hell’s Kitchen — and a longtime favorite for its authentic ambience, delicious fare and warm staff. I enjoyed cod with shrimp, grilled pineapple and butternut squash while Julie ingulged in eggplant parmigiana.

Our last get together was back in August, so there was plenty to catch up on. Julie filled me on her move from Brooklyn to the burbs of Glen Cove and excitement about impending first-time motherhood. I told her about how blissfully happy and fulfilled I am in my job at the Westin New York Grand Central. I also shared my recent head scratching moment with O, a guy I met through work.

A manager with one of Westin’s preferred partners, he ended up sitting beside me during a recent after-work drinks outing. We had met very briefly a few times before and I didn’t think anything of it – until he called me shy and intimidating.

It’s fair to say these are two adjectives that I’ve never heard anyone use to describe me before. So I was more than a little taken aback, especially since they seem to contradict one another. I found myself wondering – what had created these very different impressions? Though O made a point of saying he likes smart, authoritative women, how he labeled me seemed to suggest something else. And left me even more baffled when he characterized my reactions in weekly meetings we’ve both attended.

As I explained my exchange with O to Julie, she said I was missing the key takeaway – that O had clearly taken notice of me (he did, albeit somewhat clumsily, allude to getting together outside of work). In other words, a classic case of what happens when you’ve been single and not searching for awhile: missing what’s right in front of you.

I haven’t run into O since this little episode. I have to admit I’m more than a little curious to see what happens whenever I do.

1 comment » | flirting, Girls Night Out, Hell's Kitchen, Westin New York Grand Central

An Evening With FDNY’s Calendar Hunks

January 14th, 2011 — 3:16pm

Last night, I headed down to Union Square for a charity bachelor auction with the FDNY hunks featured in this year’s City of The Brave calendar.

Calendar Cuties: Me and some of the FDNY hunks

Held at Sidebar, the event — along with proceeds from the annual calendar — supports the Thomas Elsasser Fund, which helps families of deceased FDNY firefighters.

I arrived early, which gave me the chance to mingle with a few of the guys. Much to my delight, I found myself sitting next to Mr. February, a.k.a Phil.

It didn’t take long to realize why Phil is a fan favorite. Along with killer good looks and an irresistible smile, he’s very easy to talk to. We quickly fell into easy conversation about college (he went to Fairleigh Dickinson) along with our shared passions for creative writing (he majored in it) and 80’s music.

When I said I had to leave early to meet a friend for dinner, he said playfully–

“You’re going to miss my performance.”

I was sorry to hear that. Especially when I later looked at what he had signed in the circle marked February 14th on my calendar —

“Happy V-Day. Watch ‘Say Anything.’ “

A man who likes John Cusack movies and loves to turn a phrase? My kind of guy.

As I left the bar to go and meet my friend, I couldn’t help thinking that you never know what — or who — awaits when you venture out in NYC. I may just have to put in an appearance at the calendar hunks’ upcoming Valentine’s Day event.

5 comments » | charitable events, flirting, Valentine's Day

Cleveland Day Three: Part Two

March 7th, 2010 — 5:19pm

Thursday night, I was at Sushi Rock with new galpals Kim and Diana when I suddenly felt someone’s hand run through my hair.

A Fun Bunch: (from left to right) Diana, me, Ryan and Kim at Sushi Rock

I turned around to find it was Kim’s friend Chris. Though caught off guard by the gesture, I quickly found myself intrigued by him. A man with a titanic personality and intellect to match, Chris drew me in with flirtatious banter.

Before I knew it, we were exchanging phone numbers and heading off in a big group to the next stop, Anatomy nightclub. At the bar, Chris told me engaging tales of his life and childhood – from developing a love of flying from his pilot grandfather to biking around Europe at 16.

We talked about our favorite authors and distaste for dating games, and I could feel the attraction between us intensifying. When he invited me to check out the beer garden (i.e., busboy service entrance area), I knew we were going to kiss and we did.

Later, after a quick call to Kim to verify that I was in good hands, I accepted Chris’s invitation to go back to his sprawling penthouse pad in Cleveland’s trendy suburb Lakewood.

While I took in the sweeping city views, Chris fired up some Dean Martin and we kissed some more.

In his room, the chemistry between us continued to heat up. Chris suggested I take off my boots. I put my foot down, so to speak, and said no, fully anticipating further verbal advances.

“You know,” he said, pausing for dramatic effect. “Don’t you just love Led Zeppelin?”

I burst out laughing, loving the non-sequitir and how safe I felt with him. Since we were on the subject of music, I quipped–

“We’re going to have a problem if you don’t like 80’s music.”

“Baby,” he said without missing a beat, “I am the 80’s.”

We fell back on the bed, giggling and flirting like two high schoolers. I didn’t want the night to end, but I knew it had to.

Kim swung by to pick me up. Chris pulled me into a quick goodnight kiss and I floated out of his apartment. It was only the beginning.

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Celebrating National Singles Week

September 24th, 2009 — 9:30pm

While reading Glamour.com’s fabulous Single-ish blog, I learned that this is National Singles Week. It may not be a well known occasion (truthfully, I never even knew it existed), but I think it’s definitely one worth celebrating. Especially because there’s plenty to celebrate about being minus a plus one, as I’ve rediscovered over the last couple of days.

The other night, I headed out to happy hour on my own. It had been several months since I’d flexed my flirting muscles in this way, so I was both exhilarated and a little nervous.

Butterfield 8: A great place for happy hour fun and flirting

Thankfully, I picked a great spot — lively midtown hotspot Butterfield 8 – with a good crowd. Within a matter of minutes, I found myself talking to charming gadget salesman Milton about everything from the search for happiness to what exactly constitutes good sex.

My conversation with Milton reminded me that, when you’re single, adventure is always right around the corner if you know where to look. Last night, my newly-single trainer was beaming about the possibilities that lay ahead for her now that she’s exited an unhappy relationship.

Of course, one of the best things about singlehood is the tradition of girls night out. Tonight, I will be enjoying a big night out with three of my best galpals – and U2 at Giants Stadium.

How are you celebrating National Singles Week? Whatever you do, make it fun and fabulous. After all, that’s what being single is all about.

Comment » | Butterfield 8, flirting, Giants Stadium, Girls Night Out, Glamour.com, happy hour, National Singles Week, Single-ish, U2

Celebrating National Singles Week

September 24th, 2009 — 4:30pm

While reading Glamour.com’s fabulous Single-ish blog, I learned that this is National Singles Week. It may not be a well known occasion (truthfully, I never even knew it existed), but I think it’s definitely one worth celebrating. Especially because there’s plenty to celebrate about being minus a plus one, as I’ve rediscovered over the last couple of days.

The other night, I headed out to happy hour on my own. It had been several months since I’d flexed my flirting muscles in this way, so I was both exhilarated and a little nervous.

Butterfield 8: A great place for happy hour fun and flirting

Thankfully, I picked a great spot — lively midtown hotspot Butterfield 8 – with a good crowd. Within a matter of minutes, I found myself talking to charming gadget salesman Milton about everything from the search for happiness to what exactly constitutes good sex.

My conversation with Milton reminded me that, when you’re single, adventure is always right around the corner if you know where to look. Last night, my newly-single trainer was beaming about the possibilities that lay ahead for her now that she’s exited an unhappy relationship.

Of course, one of the best things about singlehood is the tradition of girls night out. Tonight, I will be enjoying a big night out with three of my best galpals – and U2 at Giants Stadium.

How are you celebrating National Singles Week? Whatever you do, make it fun and fabulous. After all, that’s what being single is all about.

Comment » | Butterfield 8, flirting, Giants Stadium, Girls Night Out, Glamour.com, happy hour, National Singles Week, Single-ish, U2

Say It With SingleTease

May 30th, 2009 — 10:17pm

When it comes to meeting members of the opposite sex, I’m a big believer in thinking outside the box — or, in the case of SingleTease, inside the wardrobe.

Launched by single ladies Tamera Lawrence and Kristin Moore, SingleTease makes fun and flirty t-shirts designed to be conservation starters.

“Our male friends are surprised when we tell them that guys don’t approach us,” the duo writes on their website. “So we started to think…are they intimidated by the idea of starting a conversation? Is there a way we could let them know that we’re available…and approachable?”

Their sassy SingleTees keep it simple, emblazoned with quick one-liners like “just ask me (out)” and “support your local library (check me out).” Mariah Carey wore one — “boy scouting (are you prepared?)” — in her “Touch My Body” video.

The pre-shrunk cotton shirts cost $28 — cheaper than two months of online dating membership. That’s my kind of recessionista bargain. I can’t wait to order mine and let the flirting begin.

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Say It With SingleTease

May 30th, 2009 — 5:17pm

When it comes to meeting members of the opposite sex, I’m a big believer in thinking outside the box — or, in the case of SingleTease, inside the wardrobe.

Launched by single ladies Tamera Lawrence and Kristin Moore, SingleTease makes fun and flirty t-shirts designed to be conservation starters.

“Our male friends are surprised when we tell them that guys don’t approach us,” the duo writes on their website. “So we started to think…are they intimidated by the idea of starting a conversation? Is there a way we could let them know that we’re available…and approachable?”

Their sassy SingleTees keep it simple, emblazoned with quick one-liners like “just ask me (out)” and “support your local library (check me out).” Mariah Carey wore one — “boy scouting (are you prepared?)” — in her “Touch My Body” video.

The pre-shrunk cotton shirts cost $28 — cheaper than two months of online dating membership. That’s my kind of recessionista bargain. I can’t wait to order mine and let the flirting begin.

Comment » | conversation starters, flirting, Mariah Carey, SingleTease, SingleTees

Saturday Night In SoHo

February 27th, 2009 — 12:04am

Saturday night, after my friend Cindy’s engagement party in Westchester, I returned to the city and headed downtown for another soirée – celebrating my fabulous cousin Carla’s birthday.

My cousin Carla and me at her birthday bash in SoHo

About a dozen of Carla’s close friends joined in the fun at SoHo nightclub Santos Party House, including her adorable colleague Seth.

A 32-year-old teacher, Seth spends his after-school hours working (and working out) at the gym and taking post-graduate classes toward his administrative degree. We talked about the charms of Long Island, where he grew up and still resides, and the merits of Stephanie Meyer’s popular “Twilight” series.

Upon deciding to get a drink, Seth took my hand and led me through the crowded bar area. I didn’t mind the brief wait for a cocktail — it forced us to stand thisclose as the easy conversation between us continued. I’d almost forgotten how much fun it is to flirt when the chemistry feels mutual.

Seth and I are now Facebook friends and have emailed back and forth a few times this week. He’ll be joining Carla and me for drinks when I head out to Long Island on Saturday. I’m looking forward to seeing where our second encounter leads.

Up next…Time Out New York’s The Set showcases some of the city’s best rising stars and a singles schmooze fest for a good cause.

Comment » | cousins, Facebook, flirting, Long Island, Santos Party House, SoHo, Stephanie Meyer, The Set, Time Out New York, Twilight

Saturday Night In SoHo

February 26th, 2009 — 7:04pm

Saturday night, after my friend Cindy’s engagement party in Westchester, I returned to the city and headed downtown for another soirée – celebrating my fabulous cousin Carla’s birthday.

My cousin Carla and me at her birthday bash in SoHo

About a dozen of Carla’s close friends joined in the fun at SoHo nightclub Santos Party House, including her adorable colleague Seth.

A 32-year-old teacher, Seth spends his after-school hours working (and working out) at the gym and taking post-graduate classes toward his administrative degree. We talked about the charms of Long Island, where he grew up and still resides, and the merits of Stephanie Meyer’s popular “Twilight” series.

Upon deciding to get a drink, Seth took my hand and led me through the crowded bar area. I didn’t mind the brief wait for a cocktail — it forced us to stand thisclose as the easy conversation between us continued. I’d almost forgotten how much fun it is to flirt when the chemistry feels mutual.

Seth and I are now Facebook friends and have emailed back and forth a few times this week. He’ll be joining Carla and me for drinks when I head out to Long Island on Saturday. I’m looking forward to seeing where our second encounter leads.

Up next…Time Out New York’s The Set showcases some of the city’s best rising stars and a singles schmooze fest for a good cause.

Comment » | cousins, Facebook, flirting, Long Island, Santos Party House, SoHo, Stephanie Meyer, The Set, Time Out New York, Twilight

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