A boyfriend of mine once had this to say about the journey you take in your career–it’s a marathon, not a sprint. I think the same wisdom applies to dating too.
I was reminded of the need for dating endurance after four consecutive equally lackluster first dates. The I recently blogged about were followed by two more. First, there was the teacher who wouldn’t stop talking about himself. Ironically, he shared that a previous woman had told him he didn’t ask her enough questions on their date. Of course, he didn’t take that feedback to heart.
Mr. Chatty Cathy was followed by a well-intentioned but awkward guy who made quite a first impression — with a terrible case of body odor.
Though bad dates make for great stories, they also make you nostalgic for the comfort zone you reach with someone when you’re well past the formalities of meeting for the first time. Over a recent dinner with a good friend, I mentioned old flame and. Rich was someone who from the get go was fun and easy to be with.
He was on my mind Friday while I worked out at the gym. Clearly, there’s something to the power of suggestion. When I later sat down at cozy UES Bar Sojourn, it just so happened Rich was there.
We fell into easy conversation — catching up on work, life and the perspective shift that comes with turning 40. Though that milestone is still five months away for me, it seemed we were on the same page about changing priorities. Among them, the need for a kitchen that allows for entertaining (typically not an option with NYC’s notoriously tiny galley kitchens).
It was a perfect night. And a much needed reminder that when it comes to dating, you really never know when a welcome surprise is right around the corner.
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