Category: Time Out New York


December 4th, 2011 — 11:06pm

The current issue of Time Out New York features a survey about dating. TONY polled a group of New Yorkers ranging from age 18-43, asking them which is more important – a successful career or a healthy long-term relationship. A whopping 61% said career. As I read that, I couldn’t help thinking how this is a city that seems to discourage making love and romance a priority.

I was also reminded of this when a single colleague of mine recently shared an email exchange she had with a guy she’d met at a party. The guy followed up with her afterward to try and schedule a date. Between pre-Thanksgiving preparations and work and school commitments, she told him she was unavailable for the next two weeks. His response–

“Maybe that’s why you’re 35 and still single.”

Ouch.

Though his words were more than a little harsh, he does have something of a point. When planning a date becomes harder than trying to organize a world peace summit, maybe it’s time for us to look at the roadblocks we inadvertently put in our own way.

As thirtysomething women, the temptation is always there to blame unfavorable odds or the quirks of the opposite sex for our single status – something I myself admit to doing and continuing to do. Yes, the numbers game here in New York is stacked against us and commitment phobic men are par for the course. But that doesn’t absolve us of having to do our part and make an effort.

In our overly scheduled, social media saturated lives, it’s easy to use other demands on our time (especially work, of course) as an excuse for being unattached. The reality, though, is you’re as busy as you choose to be. If you can’t find room in your calendar to schedule a first date without 14-day advance notice, then maybe that means dating just isn’t a priority.

The question becomes, though, when do you make it one?

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July 14th, 2010 — 8:24pm

Tomorrow, as part of my month-long exercise in trying at least two new things each week, I’ll be a contestant on The Fix-Up Show.

Triad: The Fix-Up Show takes place weekly at this club on NYC's Upper West Side

Two of my friends will join celebrity guest “30 Rock” actor Scott Adsit and host J. Keith Van Straaten in setting me up before a live audience. After the show’s rave review in , I can’t wait to see what happens.

Want to be part of the fun? You can buy discounted tickets by and entering the code SINGLE for a special discount. Or visit The Fix-Up Show’s . Watch this space to find out where my on-stage adventure leads!

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December 9th, 2009 — 10:32pm

Tomorrow, I’ll be heading to Boston for a good friend’s wedding. Since this will be the third nuptial affair I’m attending this year, I can’t help thinking about what it’s like to fly solo when a couple is exchanging their I Dos.

It’s an experience I’ve had plenty of practice with. The last time I was invited to a wedding with a guest was five years ago. My then-boyfriend and I broke up only a few days before the big event, so a place card bearing his name was next to mine at the reception. Ouch.

Being minus a plus one at weddings has also lent itself to some funny, memorable moments. Like the time I kissed the bride’s cousin only to have his date turn up later (see the full story on ). Or when I accidentally singed my hair on a candle during an attempt to be flirtatious.

As another year of being unattached draws to a close, though, I find myself feeling more apprehensive about going it alone at these events. The pool of fellow singles to mingle with seems to grow smaller and smaller, as does my tolerance for being in the minority of attendees without a significant other.

Thank goodness for open bar.

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December 9th, 2009 — 5:32pm

Tomorrow, I’ll be heading to Boston for a good friend’s wedding. Since this will be the third nuptial affair I’m attending this year, I can’t help thinking about what it’s like to fly solo when a couple is exchanging their I Dos.

It’s an experience I’ve had plenty of practice with. The last time I was invited to a wedding with a guest was five years ago. My then-boyfriend and I broke up only a few days before the big event, so a place card bearing his name was next to mine at the reception. Ouch.

Being minus a plus one at weddings has also lent itself to some funny, memorable moments. Like the time I kissed the bride’s cousin only to have his date turn up later (see the full story on ). Or when I accidentally singed my hair on a candle during an attempt to be flirtatious.

As another year of being unattached draws to a close, though, I find myself feeling more apprehensive about going it alone at these events. The pool of fellow singles to mingle with seems to grow smaller and smaller, as does my tolerance for being in the minority of attendees without a significant other.

Thank goodness for open bar.

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December 7th, 2009 — 10:30pm

TheSet NYC, Time Out New York’s monthly variety show, is celebrating the season with Holiday Bash 2009.

The Sullivan Room: TheSet’s holiday bash will take place at this West Village hotspot

Set for Friday, December 18, 2009, the soiree will take place from 9 to 11pm at the famous Sullivan Room in NYC’s West Village.

Mingle with artists, enjoy catered food and drink specials (2 for 1 from 9-10pm), and bring business cards for networking. Music provided by DJ Adam Childs and an after party will follow.

I’ve had the pleasure of more than once and it’s always a fun night out.

Admission to the Holiday Bash is free. For more information and to RSVP,

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December 7th, 2009 — 5:30pm

TheSet NYC, Time Out New York’s monthly variety show, is celebrating the season with Holiday Bash 2009.

The Sullivan Room: TheSet’s holiday bash will take place at this West Village hotspot

Set for Friday, December 18, 2009, the soiree will take place from 9 to 11pm at the famous Sullivan Room in NYC’s West Village.

Mingle with artists, enjoy catered food and drink specials (2 for 1 from 9-10pm), and bring business cards for networking. Music provided by DJ Adam Childs and an after party will follow.

I’ve had the pleasure of more than once and it’s always a fun night out.

Admission to the Holiday Bash is free. For more information and to RSVP,

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May 12th, 2009 — 11:30pm
Discovering fabulous new artists is one of the best parts of living in the Big Apple. One of my current favorites, singer/songwriter J. Cabrera, is performing tomorrow at Broadway Baby, a lounge and bistro in Midtown West.

J. Cabrera performing at The Set

I had the pleasure of hearing Cabrera not too long ago when he took the stage at , Time Out New York’s free monthly performing arts showcase.

The nattily dressed singer knows how to deliver soulful R&B with a hint of Justin Timberlake. Ever the charmer, he says he got his start “singing in kindergarten to the pretty 5 year olds” in his class.

You can find out more about Cabrera on his page. “Imagine That” is a catchy tune worth downloading.

He’ll be performing at 8pm on Wednesday at Broadway Baby. For more info, visit the show’s page.

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May 12th, 2009 — 6:30pm
Discovering fabulous new artists is one of the best parts of living in the Big Apple. One of my current favorites, singer/songwriter J. Cabrera, is performing tomorrow at Broadway Baby, a lounge and bistro in Midtown West.

J. Cabrera performing at The Set

I had the pleasure of hearing Cabrera not too long ago when he took the stage at , Time Out New York’s free monthly performing arts showcase.

The nattily dressed singer knows how to deliver soulful R&B with a hint of Justin Timberlake. Ever the charmer, he says he got his start “singing in kindergarten to the pretty 5 year olds” in his class.

You can find out more about Cabrera on his page. “Imagine That” is a catchy tune worth downloading.

He’ll be performing at 8pm on Wednesday at Broadway Baby. For more info, visit the show’s page.

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March 28th, 2009 — 9:46pm

Wednesday night, I paid my second visit to The Set, Time Out New York ’s free monthly performing arts showcase of rising stars.

It was standing room only at New World Stage’s downstairs lounge, but I managed to snare a seat at the bar, thanks to show producer Pim. I also caught up with singer/songwriter Red Wine, who knocked my socks off at February’s show.

Singer Red Wine and me at The Set NYC

“I knew something good was going to happen today,” he said when I approached him. I predicted he’ll win a Grammy someday and he promised to thank me if he does.

Red Wine sang his irresistible cover of Ne Yo’s “Closer” before doing double duty as host for the evening. First up — veteran Aussie singer Anna Fiszman and guitarist Marc Landesberg.

Musical duo Anna and Marc: my favorite performers of the night

Their jazzy take on Ray Charles’ “Unchain My Heart” brought down the house and was, for me, the best performance of the night. Anna’s soulful voice is heaven sent.

Next up was young comedienne Liz Miele, who did an amusing riff about being an angry New Yorker unmoved by dogs or babies. Swedish dance trio Frida, Moncef and Ronja had the crowd applauding with their energetic, fresh take on hip hop.

Frida, Moncef and Ronja put their own spin on hip hop

Adorable magician Nick Ignazzi involved members of the audience in his act, which included being tied up, revealing he’s the Guinness Book record holder for most tic tac toe wins (32) and, of course, doing a card trick.

Young singer Melanie Fontana closed out The Set with a stirring rendition of Rihanna’s “Umbrella” and an original ballad, “Water,” that I can’t wait to download.

After the show, I told duo Anna and Marc how much I loved their performance. Anna’s from Melbourne, one of my favorite cities Down Under, and she’s as engaging offstage as she is on.

Getting to know musical duo Anna and Marc

You can catch on April 11th at the Central Park Bandshell and then that night at Made With Love, a coffeehouse in Jersey City.

For more information about all of The Set’s stars, visit the show’s .

Coming up…a swanky magazine shindig in Times Square and celeb spotting at GLAAD’s Media Awards.

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March 28th, 2009 — 4:46pm

Wednesday night, I paid my second visit to The Set, Time Out New York ’s free monthly performing arts showcase of rising stars.

It was standing room only at New World Stage’s downstairs lounge, but I managed to snare a seat at the bar, thanks to show producer Pim. I also caught up with singer/songwriter Red Wine, who knocked my socks off at February’s show.

Singer Red Wine and me at The Set NYC

“I knew something good was going to happen today,” he said when I approached him. I predicted he’ll win a Grammy someday and he promised to thank me if he does.

Red Wine sang his irresistible cover of Ne Yo’s “Closer” before doing double duty as host for the evening. First up — veteran Aussie singer Anna Fiszman and guitarist Marc Landesberg.

Musical duo Anna and Marc: my favorite performers of the night

Their jazzy take on Ray Charles’ “Unchain My Heart” brought down the house and was, for me, the best performance of the night. Anna’s soulful voice is heaven sent.

Next up was young comedienne Liz Miele, who did an amusing riff about being an angry New Yorker unmoved by dogs or babies. Swedish dance trio Frida, Moncef and Ronja had the crowd applauding with their energetic, fresh take on hip hop.

Frida, Moncef and Ronja put their own spin on hip hop

Adorable magician Nick Ignazzi involved members of the audience in his act, which included being tied up, revealing he’s the Guinness Book record holder for most tic tac toe wins (32) and, of course, doing a card trick.

Young singer Melanie Fontana closed out The Set with a stirring rendition of Rihanna’s “Umbrella” and an original ballad, “Water,” that I can’t wait to download.

After the show, I told duo Anna and Marc how much I loved their performance. Anna’s from Melbourne, one of my favorite cities Down Under, and she’s as engaging offstage as she is on.

Getting to know musical duo Anna and Marc

You can catch on April 11th at the Central Park Bandshell and then that night at Made With Love, a coffeehouse in Jersey City.

For more information about all of The Set’s stars, visit the show’s .

Coming up…a swanky magazine shindig in Times Square and celeb spotting at GLAAD’s Media Awards.

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