Category: Chelsea


A Second Date With A Semi-Surprising Outcome

December 8th, 2012 — 7:40pm

My second date with Long Island bachelor and OkCupid member E began much like the first – at a fabulous nightspot in Chelsea.

We met for drinks at The Darby, an upscale jazz club and restaurant with rich, elegant décor and great music. As we clinked glasses, E said I looked pretty and we made easy small talk about the holidays and our plans for the evening.

For dinner, E chose Crispo, a first-class Italian bistro with a cozy main dining room featuring exposed brick, a waterfall and wrought iron chairs. The food was amazing – I had black truffle ricotta ravioli and we shared a sublime tiramisu for dessert. Along the way, E asked a lot of questions and listened intently as I told him about my travels to Australia over the years and what I learned during my U.S. Dating Blitz.

Crispo serves delicious, authentic Italian fare (Photo Courtesy: Whollygastromony.com)

I found myself thinking maybe I had read too much into his gay-related observations on date #1 — until we got to Canal Room down in Soho.

As we waited for awesome 80’s tribute band Jessie’s Girl to take the stage, E quoted some advice a friend had shared with him–

“’If you like this girl, don’t tell her you like Neil Diamond.’”

While I’m processing why he’s telling me this, E reflects on how popular tight jeans were during the 80’s – and gestures toward the rear end of a guy in front of us who’s wearing them.

At this point, I can’t ignore the fact that my gay-dar vibe is sounding an alarm. I try putting that aside once the concert starts, doing by best to just enjoy Jessie’s Girl’s energetic set of 80’s classics. But when E leans over – twice – to comment on the band’s muscle-shirt clad male backup singer, my patience begins to wear thin. Nothing’s a bigger buzzkill than having your date make eyes at other men.

E and I shared an awkward cab ride back uptown.

“I’ll talk to you soon,” he called out as he shut the door and I knew that wasn’t going to happen. Because clearly, he has a few things to figure out when it comes to who exactly he wants to date.

Though I managed to eventually find the humor in this unexpected episode, it also served as a cautionary tale of what can happen when you rely too heavily on the Internet to find love. I’ve said it many times and it bears repeating: online dating is a lot like gambling. There are the lucky few who hit the jackpot and then there’s everybody else. I, for one, have had my fill of cyberspace-instigated dates. So I’m officially taking my online profile down and making a New Year’s resolution to get offline and back out there again.

The quest for love continues.

| 80's cover band, Canal Room, Chelsea, new year's resolutions, OKCupid, online dating, second dates

A Surprising First Date

December 5th, 2012 — 10:04pm

It’s no secret that online dating has its fair share of surprises. And that most of those surprises are because people aren’t always how they appear in a profile. I was recently reminded of this after connecting with E on OkCupid.

E and I seemed to click in our initial phone conversation, which breezed by for over an hour. During that time, E admitted he actually lives in and is from Long Island — not Manhattan, as his profile states. Knowing the geographic snobbery that is all too common here in NYC, I understood the minor mistruth and thought nothing of it.

Il Bastardo: this popular bistro in Chelsea is perfect for a first date

We met for drinks at Il Bastardo, a cozy Italian bistro in Chelsea with a lounge vibe. When I arrived at the restaurant, he greeted me warmly, making mention of both my dress and my earrings. We easily picked up where we had left off in our phone conversation, talking about our mutual affinity for James Bond and the challenges of dating in your thirties.

It was around this time that E revealed he is actually 44, not 39 as his profile states. A red flag went off — lie #2, I thought to myself suspiciously — but I brushed it off when he talked about age discrimination in the New York dating scene. Having once been a twenty something woman dating upper thirty something guys, I couldn’t argue with his reasoning.

So the easy banter continued, as a second round of drinks led to dinner and we found ourselves sharing relationship war stories. When I mentioned my history of dating older men, E talked about an older woman he was involved with for awhile.

“She told me that when she first met me, she thought I was gay.”

This seemed like an unusual anecdote to share but, once again, I tried not to jump to conclusions. After all, isn’t that we’re often accused of as thirtysomething singles — being too picky, too quick to make snap judgments about the opposite sex?

E briefly excused himself to go to the bathroom. Just before I followed suit, he made a point of telling me it was a unisex facility — and that he was once almost propositioned by two men who disappeared into a stall in there.

Again, red flag alert. Could it be, I wondered, that E was as interested in men as his profile claimed him to be in women? I was, well, befuddled. His words seemed to say one thing yet his actions communicated something else, especially when it came time to say goodnight. E leaned in for a kiss that left little room for questioning.

Date #2, however, was a completely different story.

| Chelsea, first dates, OKCupid, online dating, online dating profiles

NYC Event Pick: Broadway After Dark Hurricane Sandy Benefit

November 4th, 2012 — 8:14pm

As New York begins the long road to recovery from Hurricane Sandy, there’s no shortage of ways to help those affected by the storm. You can find out about some of them and here.

Or if you want to combine supporting relief efforts with a fun night out, Broadway Sings For Pride has just the ticket.

Tomorrow night, Real Housewives of New York’s Sonja Morgan and comedian Adam Sank will host Broadway After Dark, a benefit for Hurricane Sandy relief. The event will feature performances from more than a dozen stars of Wicked, Spider-Man: Turn Off The Dark, The Lion King, Hair and much more.

Before the show begins, audience members will have a chance to meet and greet the singers. Raffle items for the night will include: tickets to Bring It On: The Musical and Forbidden Broadway, a one-hour private workout training session with Matthew J. Riordan and specialty Broadway items.

Broadway After Dark begins at 10pm tomorrow at Splash in Chelsea, with 2 for 1 drink specials until 9:30pm. For more information, call (212) 691-0073.

| Chelsea, NYC events

Ladies Event Pick: Single In Stilettos

April 26th, 2012 — 2:32pm

When it comes to being single and searching, wouldn’t it be great to have a brain trust of dating experts? That’s exactly what you’ll get at Single in Stilettos.

On Saturday April 28th in NYC, Single in Stilettos will bring together a panel of more than a dozen renowned dating experts for the first in a series of events across the U.S. Designed to empower, inspire and motivate women, the all-day event will cover dating & relationships, image, fashion and sex.

The superstar lineup of speakers includes: Clinical Psychologist & Certified Sex Therapist Dr. Megan Fleming, The Frisky Editor-in-Chief Amelia McDonell-Parry, Brand U360 CEO Erika Nitz, Professional Wingman Thomas Edwards Jr, Professional Wing Girl Marni Kinrys, eFlirt Expert Founder and CEO Laurie Davis and CupidsPulse.com Executive Editor Lori Vadala Bizzoco.  Several dating coaches will also be on hand.

Matchmaker and Single in Stilettos creator Suzanne Oshima came up with the event after interviewing more than 1,000 bachelorettes about how they’re looking for Mr. Right.

“Over and over they would just say one or two things, ‘online dating’ or, ‘going to bars and clubs’,” Oshima says. “Women simply are not taking advantage of all the other creative avenues for meeting the right man. Single in Stilettos [gives] single women the secrets on where to find men, but also what men look for and want in a woman.”

Single in Stilettos will take place at the Skylight Room in Chelsea. Dating sessions and panels run from 10am-6pm, followed by a happy hour from 6-8pm featuring complimentary vodka cocktails, raffle prizes and goodie bags sponsored by Babeland. Admission is $80, but SGITC readers can purchase tickets at a special price of $25 with discount code SGC4.

| Chelsea, dating advice, dating coaches, dating columnists, singles events

Nominate A Date Ends

April 23rd, 2012 — 2:16pm

Friday night, I went out with Nominate A Date bachelor #9, Marcus, 33. Marcus and I initially connected last month, at our mutual friend Tamara’s book signing.

Tall, sweet and very easy to talk to, Marcus planned a lovely evening for us that began with a leisurely stroll along NYC’s High Line. I wasn’t surprised to hear that photography is one of his passions. Marcus made a point of stopping a few times along the way so we could take in a few spectacular views,  including the sun setting behind the Hudson River.

We fell into easy conversation about our respective hometowns (he’s originally from Salt Lake City) and career transitions – his from human resources into financial services, mine from journalism to PR.  Marcus started out as a tuba player majoring in music education. I could see that because he has the kind of warm, engaging personality which would lend itself well to teaching.

The artichoke and cream pizza here is not to be missed. Yuuuum.

For dinner, Marcus introduced me to Artichoke Basille’s, a cozy pizza place in Chelsea, and to one of their signature dishes – artichoke and cream pizza. The mouthwatering pie is almost worthy of a blog post on its own, that’s how much I enjoyed it.

We ended up talking quite a bit about dating. When it comes to first dates, Marcus was very clear about what he considers the ground rules for them—

“Planned, paid off and partnered up.”

Meaning, he clarified, that chivalry is not dead – something he proved by insisting on treating me to dinner and graciously helping me with my coat.

Marcus asked me a lot about the blog and my various dating blitzes, managing to be inquisitive in a thoughtful, sensitive way.  He wondered what I’ve learned from it all. I found my mind drifting to various moments from each of these adventures, recalling the amazing people I met and many a-ha moments they led me to.

I told Marcus that some of the greatest lessons have been about the universality of the search for love, and the understanding shared by all singles regardless of zip code or country. I also realized how I was getting in my own way by holding on too tightly to the past.

One of the greatest epiphanies resurfaced as Marcus and I were saying goodnight.

“Let’s definitely stay in touch,” he said. “I want to hear about your future dating projects.”

I cringed when he said this.  Because it reinforced the downside of taking an unconventional approach to meeting new people – the perception that you’re only interested in adventure for its own sake. Though I have no regrets about any of my three dating projects, I am now officially done with them, happy to turn my attention toward slightly more traditional methods of connecting.

Here’s to the next chapter in my single life – and feeling completely ready for it.

| Chelsea, first dates, Nominate A Date

A Different View Of The Red Carpet

November 23rd, 2011 — 9:45pm

Over the years, through my work in TV news and as a blogger, I’ve had the chance to attend several red carpet events. Monday, for the first time, I was on the other side of the velvet rope — managing the media at Children of Chernobyl’s Children At Heart gala.

The annual event at NYC’s Chelsea Piers attracts more than 600 guests and supports CCOC’s work to rescue children from the contaminated regions of Chernobyl. To date, the group has rescued nearly 2,800 children on 95 missions.

More than 30 media outlets crammed onto the short red carpet, including of course many paparazzi photographers. As they jostled for space and one of them stalked off in a huff, I found myself thinking how happy I am to be on this side of the media fence now.

Rocking The Red Carpet: (from left) Elle Fanning, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones

It was no surprise the shutterbugs were out in full force — CCOC’s VIP lineup included Kirk Douglas, Michael Douglas, Catherine Zeta-Jones , Jon Voight and Elle Fanning. I was literally standing thisclose to the celebs as they chatted with crews from “Extra” and “Inside Edition.” I have to say Catherine is truly a knockout in person and the two make a striking pair. As for Elle, she had the doe-eyed look of a young star who hasn’t been spoiled by fame yet.

All Smiles After The Media Scrum: Andrea, Glenn and me

My colleagues Andrea and Glenn joined me in escorting a few select photogs into the dinner, where host Jon Voight kept things moving and video montages celebrated the work of both Douglases.

During a brief moment of quiet, one of the top-notch security guards and I shared a few laughs. Married, he admitted he knows far more great single women than men. He also assured me he would keep his eye open for me. After all, a single gal can never have too many potential matchmakers, right?

| charitable events, Chelsea

Singles Event Pick: The Psychology Behind The Male & Female Brain

March 3rd, 2011 — 3:44pm

Curious about the science behind why men and women think differently? You can get answers at The Psychology Behind The Male & Female Brain, an upcoming lecture hosted by professional NYC matchmaker and Sunday At Noon founder Marni Galison.

Set for Tuesday March 15th at Chelsea Studios on West 26th Street, the talk will examine inherently different ways in which men and women think and view the world. Marni will teach men and women how to better understand the opposite sex by accepting that it is the dissimilar hormones and chemicals within the brain that cause many male/female misunderstandings.

The 45-minute lecture starts at 7:45pm and will be followed by a Q&A.  Admission is $25 in advance or $35 at the door. to RSVP via Facebook or email carolyn@sundayatnoon.com.

| Chelsea, singles events

Girls Night Out: Chelsea

August 1st, 2010 — 6:15pm

Friday night, I headed down to Chelsea to celebrate good friend Sara’s birthday.

Hill Country: Delicious bbq fare served market style in a saloon setting

Joined by mutual galpal Leila and Sara’s colleague Shari, we got a taste of Texas-style barbecue at Hill Country. Like stepping right into the Lone Star state, Hill Country serves up saloon-style atmosphere with a side dish of live music and tasty meat and fixins’ fare. I enjoyed melt in your mouth beef ribs, green bean casserole and sweet potato bourbon mash. Delish.

Over dinner, the four of us talked about the buzz kill of clashing politically on a first date, getting turned off by high-maintenance men and how men seem more inclined to waste time in a relationship they know isn’t going anywhere.

I like to think one of the advantages of thirty something dating is you know yourself well enough to not linger in something with no future. Unless, of course, all you’re looking for is good old fashioned fun. Which is exactly what I hope to have plenty of when I head off to Europe for my next dating blitz!

| Chelsea, The European Dating Blitz

Singles Event Pick: The Set NYC’s Heat

June 9th, 2010 — 8:14pm

Redwine: One of the featured artists at Heat

Longtime readers of this blog know I’m a big fan of The Set NYC, a monthly performing arts showcase featuring rising stars. Which is why I was excited to hear about The Set’s upcoming fashion show and after party, Heat.

Scheduled for Saturday July 10th, the event kicks off at 8pm at Amnesia nightclub in Chelsea and include comedic and dance performances. Also taking to the stage — silky smooth R&B singer Redwine, one of my favorite artists from The Set.

Tickets are $15 in advance, $20 at the door. For more info, click here.

| Amnesia nightclub, Chelsea, singles events, The Set, The Set NYC

Girls Night Out: Chelsea

June 5th, 2010 — 5:28pm

Last night, I joined my dear friend and author Gwen Davis for a girls night out in Chelsea.

Cook Shop: Contemporary, inventive bistro fare in Chelsea (photo courtesy: restaurant addict.net)

After a look at the Gagosian Gallery’s fabulous exhibit of Monet’s late work, we headed over to Cook Shop for dinner.

The trendy, inviting bistro features a unique menu — featuring, among other things, venison, quail and farmer’s cross pig — that changes daily and waitstaff that are both friendly and easy on the eyes. I enjoyed potato and watercress soup and veal breast au jus, along with a taste of Gwen’s whitebait tempura.

As we enjoyed our meal and a few colorful cocktails, Gwen and I talked about fairweather friends, old flames and favorite travel destinations (Bali among them).

Next, we went for a leisurely stroll across the High Line park. A former stretch of railroad track converted to a promenade that opened last summer, the High Line features more than 10,000 plantings and a great juxtaposition of city and harbor views. If you haven’t been there — or to Cook Shop, for that matter — add it to your must-do list.

Coming up…a special offer for Single Gal In The City readers from one of NYC’s top dating coaches and top tips for singles from author Andrea Syrtash.

| Chelsea, Girls Night Out, Gwen Davis

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