When you’re single, every once in awhile you find yourself genuinely surprised at how some people date. This week witnessed one of those moments.
It happened during a phone call from R, a cute, 28-year-old media guy I’ve gone out with a couple of times. Out of nowhere, R says he could feel we were moving into relationship territory — and he wanted to let me know he’s not looking for anything serious.
Though I appreciated his candor, I found it odd that he assumed we were progressing beyond the casual stage. Three dates and one tepid goodnight kiss do not a relationship make.
What made R’s declaration of being non-committal truly curious, though, was how it didn’t quite jibe with his behavior. If actions speak louder than words, then he’s been sending a completely different message since asking me out a month ago.
In addition to calling and/or texting daily, R brought up future events more than once. In December, he mentioned Valentine’s Day. Right after New Year’s, he asked me about my upcoming birthday and quickly booked concert tickets and a hotel room for the occasion (he lives in Connecticut). He even said we were in the “honeymoon period.”
“Just heard ‘On The Wings of Love’ at a diner…thought of you,” he texted me a few days after our third date.
While it sounded like R was on a completely different page, I didn’t give it much thought since — again — we had only gone out a few times and I’ve been dating other people. Clearly, he did overthink things and ended up spooking himself as a result.
R confirmed for me that, fling or not, men who scare easily are most definitely not my type. And made me even more excited about my first foray into themed speed dating.
Coming up…the full scoop about said event and some strange characters from OkCupid.