A colleague of mine recently shared the following quote about the promise of a new year–
“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.”
As I embrace the renewed sense of hope and purpose that accompanies turning the calendar page, I can’t help thinking about everything I learned in 2013. The final year of my thirties brought many epiphanies both great and small.
I learned why there are so many horror stories about home renovation projects. The upgrade of my tiny galley kitchen took two contractors and six months longer to complete than expected. Like most endeavors in life, though, the trials were worth the triumph of what awaited me at the end—in this case, a more inviting, updated space in which to do the cooking I’ve come to enjoy so much.
This was also a year in which I learned the power of letting go, especially when it comes to old wounds and festering grudges. After a lengthy estrangement with someone who hurt me very deeply, I extended the olive branch of forgiveness. I immediately felt a huge emotional weight lifted, leaving room for healing and reconciliation in its place.
Of course, no reflection on the 12 months just passed would be complete without a look back at the ups and downs of being a single gal in the city. After a relatively quiet 2012, 2013 was a year in which I really made the effort to put myself out there again. And that brought a string of bad dates and romantic disappointments – the cumulative effect of which I didn’t realize until someone very special came along.
Over the last couple of months, this person taught me that there’s a big difference between being cautious and expecting the worst. And even when I continually engaged in the latter, he responded unconditionally, calling me out on my behavior while never holding it against me.
This week, he leaves the country to return to his hometown. I am a better person for having known him. He reminded me that the imprint someone leaves on your life has nothing to do with the duration they’re in it. And that when it comes to matters of the heart, taking a leap of faith is always a good thing.
Here’s to leaping forward on all fronts in 2014. Happy New Year!