Category: new year’s goals


Lessons from 2013

January 1st, 2014 — 6:37pm

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A colleague of mine recently shared the following quote about the promise of a new year–

“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.”

As I embrace the renewed sense of hope and purpose that accompanies turning the calendar page, I can’t help thinking about everything I learned in 2013. The final year of my thirties brought many epiphanies both great and small.

I learned why there are so many horror stories about home renovation projects. The upgrade of my tiny galley kitchen took two contractors and six months longer to complete than expected. Like most endeavors in life, though, the trials were worth the triumph of what awaited me at the end—in this case, a more inviting, updated space in which to do the cooking I’ve come to enjoy so much.

This was also a year in which I learned the power of letting go, especially when it comes to old wounds and festering grudges. After a lengthy estrangement with someone who hurt me very deeply, I extended the olive branch of forgiveness. I immediately felt a huge emotional weight lifted, leaving room for healing and reconciliation in its place.

Of course, no reflection on the 12 months just passed would be complete without a look back at the ups and downs of being a single gal in the city. After a relatively quiet 2012, 2013 was a year in which I really made the effort to put myself out there again. And that brought a string of bad dates and romantic disappointments – the cumulative effect of which I didn’t realize until someone very special came along.

Over the last couple of months, this person taught me that there’s a big difference between being cautious and expecting the worst. And even when I continually engaged in the latter, he responded unconditionally, calling me out on my behavior while never holding it against me.

This week, he leaves the country to return to his hometown. I am a better person for having known him. He reminded me that the imprint someone leaves on your life has nothing to do with the duration they’re in it. And that when it comes to matters of the heart, taking a leap of faith is always a good thing.

Here’s to leaping forward on all fronts in 2014. Happy New Year!

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Sponsored Post: Find a New Fitness Buddy with Gaiam TV

January 11th, 2012 — 11:17pm

When it comes to New Year’s resolutions, one of my biggest ones is a pretty popular one — getting back in shape. Between changing gyms and going back to work full time, I kind of lost my fitness mojo in 2011. Since getting a personal trainer to kick my butt isn’t in my budget (for now!), I’m embracing other tools that will help me fit into the clothes currently relegated to the back of my closet. A new favorite —  Gaiam TV.

It’s no secret that TV and having a fitness buddy can make a big difference when it comes to sticking with an exercise plan and making your workout time fly by (Millionaire Matchmaker is one of my guilty viewing pleasures at the gym, heaven help me). Gaiam TV combines both as the first streaming video subscription service designed for health and wellness. Like Netflix for the fitness minded, it has hundreds of hours of online yoga, Pilates and cardio classes. When I took advantage of a free preview, I was impressed to find that you can practice with top, nationally known instructors like Rodney Yee, Seane Corn, Jillian Michaels, Mari Winsor and Kathryn Budig.

In addition to being user friendly, Gaiam TV’s yoga and fitness studios are flexible. You can customize workouts for weight loss, total body sculpting or increased energy and narrow down your options based on level, style, instructor and amount of available time. And it’s also easy to search for videos, make playlists and preview selections. As a subscriber, you can rate and review programs.

Again, like Netflix, Gaiam TV offers 24/7 instant access. The company’s complete library of award-winning videos is available anytime, and streaming capabilities include personal computers, iPads and smartphones. With the $9.95 monthly subscription fee, you can stream unlimited content and members can cancel at anytime.

Not sold yet? Gaiam TV is offering a free 10-day trial — no strings attached — to prospective subscribers. for more info.

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A Return To Speed Dating

January 9th, 2012 — 10:23pm

As part of my Just Say Yes mantra for 2012, I’m getting back into the swing of things dating wise – and that means taking another stab at speed dating.

Though I’ve done it a handful of times over the years, Thursday marked my first experience with NYMinuteDating. The event was held in the back room at cozy Latin American fusion restaurant La Zarza in NYC’s East Village. During the pre-event mingling period, I chatted with friendly fortysomething bachelor David about why we love New York more than California (seasonal changes, more to do anytime day or night, etc.) and the rush of zip lining.

La Zarza: the cozy East Village restaurant and lounge is an ideal venue for speed dating

David casually mentioned he was divorced – one of many bachelors on hand in this category. Much like bars or restaurants, every speed dating company has its own personality and attracts a certain kind of clientele. If Thursday’s event is any indication, NYMinuteDating attracts its fair share of divorced men with children and guys who work in IT. Of the 17 bachelors in attendance, about half of them were software developers.

Another trend with this group – revealing a little too much. One of the divorced men took up most of our four minutes together talking about being divorced, why his teenage daughters want him to start dating again and the new house he just moved into. Speaking of real estate, another bachelor was a little too eager to talk about his 10,000 square foot pad on Central Park West and the huge New Year’s party he hosted.

Then, there was the bachelor who began his conversation with the girl to my right by asking—

“Why are you still single?”

Call me picky, but that’s not exactly the friendliest conversation starter.

Thankfully, there were a handful of guys who reminded me why this round robin approach to meeting new people can be so much fun. Nashville native turned Brooklyn resident Chyld charmed me with his slight accent, affection for barbecue and playful smile. World traveler Greg entertained with tales of a recent visit to one of my favorite cities, Berlin, while Canadian-born Alistair admitted that he trekked all the way from Connecticut for the event.

As someone who’s a big fan of crossing state lines to put yourself out there, I loved his candor about it. David was equally candid his agenda—

“I want to meet someone.”

Who says all NYC men are players?

FYI – NYMinuteDating is a great last-minute option for a fun night out. While most speed dating events sell out for women well in advance, many of the singles (myself included) booked on Thursday and the event was still well attended with a balanced ratio and guys and girls. Bottom line — $35 well spent.

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My #1 New Year’s Resolution

December 23rd, 2011 — 8:29pm

When it comes to the holiday season, the part I most look forward to is New Year’s. There’s something about the turning of the calendar page that makes me feel like it’s a chance to start fresh. Which is why, yes, I’m one of those people — the kind who make new year’s resolutions.

For 2012, along with the cliched goals of decluttering and losing a few pounds, I’ve added a new motto to the top of my list — just say yes.

As I’ve mentioned here a few times, 2011 has marked a period of, well, doing mostly the opposite. Taking comfort in what’s familiar and taking a much needed breather from New York’s challenging dating scene.

The thing about a break like this is that it can very easily become less of a hiatus and more of a long-term sabbatical. After all, when you live in Gotham, there’s no shortage of diversions to fill your time with that have absolutely nothing to do with finding love.

I’ve quite happily spent the last several months doing those things exclusively, concentrating on friends, family and the more predictable fun that goes along with flying solo. Now, it’s time to dust off my Single Gal In The City shoes and just say yes.

Last year, when I was interviewed by Gayle King, she said Joan Rivers once told her to say yes to everything when you’re single – party invites, new activities, whatever it might be that could connect you with different people. I think there’s something to this, not just for the sake of potential romance but because that’s how you keep yourself open to new adventures in life.

Looking back on most of the greatest adventures I’ve been fortunate enough to have, they all started with one simple question – why not? I’m looking forward to renewing that approach in 2012 and seeing where it takes me.

Happy holidays everyone!

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New Year, New Look

January 20th, 2010 — 12:00am


When it comes to changes — be they of the cosmetic or more dramatic variety — I think there’s no better time to make them than the new year. That’s why Single Gal In The City is in the middle of a makeover.

You may have noticed SGITC’s new look, unveiled over the weekend. Next month, I’ll be moving the blog to a new, snappier URL — and announcing my grand 2010 plan and how you can be a part of it.

In the meantime, don’t forget to drop me a line and share your dream U.S. city for singles. See sidebar below for contest details.

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New Year, New Look

January 19th, 2010 — 7:00pm


When it comes to changes — be they of the cosmetic or more dramatic variety — I think there’s no better time to make them than the new year. That’s why Single Gal In The City is in the middle of a makeover.

You may have noticed SGITC’s new look, unveiled over the weekend. Next month, I’ll be moving the blog to a new, snappier URL — and announcing my grand 2010 plan and how you can be a part of it.

In the meantime, don’t forget to drop me a line and share your dream U.S. city for singles. See sidebar below for contest details.

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