Category: dating bloggers


Girls Night Out: Upper East Side

December 9th, 2013 — 9:15pm

Saturday, I enjoyed a girls night out with my good friend Bobbi.

We headed over to Bottega, an Italian bistro on the UES that I’ve been meaning to try since it replaced a Greek seafood eatery in the same location.

Bottega Restaurant: A welcome addition to the UES

Bottega Restaurant: A welcome addition to the UES

My neighborhood has been lacking an Italian restaurant with authentic charm since Da Filippo closed a few years ago. Though on the pricey side, Bottega fills the void quite nicely with Mediterranean ambience, welcoming, attentive service and delicious food. I enjoyed a heavenly beet salad and red snapper, both of which were excellent.

Over dinner, we talked about work, plans to celebrate our upcoming 40th birthdays and, of course, our latest dating travails.

One of the things I’m discovering in this final stretch of my thirties is how much harder it becomes to not close yourself off because of past hurts and disappointments. When the opportunity for romance arises, it feels fraught with more emotional risk somehow. But, as more than a few wise women have recently reminded me, failing to take a chance is an even more perilous scenario.

Fellow dating blogger Kelly Seal told me:

“Life is short. Enjoy good relationships, even if they are brief. Pain can come with any relationship, because we make ourselves vulnerable. This is a good thing, not a bad thing. Each person has their own personal romantic trajectory, different from anyone else’s. Who’s to say what will happen next?”

Well said — and words I’m taking to heart.

| dating bloggers, dating in your thirties, Girls Night Out, turning 40

Five Years Of SGITC

July 17th, 2013 — 9:16pm

cakes-cupcakes-012I recently celebrated a special anniversary – five years of Single Gal In The City. The milestone comes as I’m about to wrap up handwritten journal #99, so I’m feeling more than a little reflective about the journey I’ve taken as a writer.

For as long as I can remember, writing has been one of my greatest passions. Still, I never could have imagined that it would lead to me having my own little corner of the blogosphere – something for which I must once again thank my dear friend Carla, because without her unyielding encouragement, SGITC would never have come to be.

It’s been quite a ride since I penned that first post on July 2, 2008. I’ve done three dating blitzes (in NYC, across the US and in Europe), done speed dating multiple times, tried various dating websites, had ill-fated but illuminating romances and even a few encounters with old flames.

Then, of course, there are the many exciting invitations that have come to me because of this blog — TV show appearances, theater performances and book launch parties to name just a few. For a New Yorker who adores her hometown, I’ve found myself smitten all over again with it during these only-in-the-Big-Apple moments.

Along the way, of course, writing this blog has not been without its surprises. The biggest one — that five years later, I’m still a single gal in the city.

I never expected to still be flying solo at the end of my thirties. An often heard response to that — but isn’t that what my ‘brand’ is all about? And what could I possibly write about if I’m no longer single?

My answer to that – a writer always finds something to write about (as I close in on my 100th journal, it’s fair to say I’m speaking from a healthy amount of experience). As for the notion that the blog is a hindrance to happily ever after, well, I’m not convinced. I know at least a few dating bloggers who have found lasting love while maintaining their relationship-driven corners of cyberspace.

I also know it isn’t any one particular thing which decides your romantic fate. It is ultimately a confluence of factors that leads you to your mate. Not the least of which is staying open to the possibility of finding him.

Thanks to all of the singles, married and somewhere-in-between folks who have shown me that time and again. And for your part in making this journey as a blogger such a rewarding one.

 

| dating bloggers, dating in your thirties, New York, Single Gal In The City

Celebrating A Fabulous New Dating Advice Book

June 2nd, 2013 — 9:16pm

Wednesday night, I attended a press preview for Andrea Syrtash and Jeff Wilser’s new book,

All smiles with co-authors Jeff and Andrea

All smiles with co-authors Jeff and Andrea

Held at THE LCL: Bar & Kitchen and sponsored by Movado, the lively event gave me the opportunity to catch up with some of my favorite fellow bloggers: Nando, The Lost Plum and Yolanda Shoshana. This trio’s sass and smarts never fail to entertain.

While enjoying cocktails and some delicious hors d’oeuvres, we talked about the teenage-like thrill of a great first date, the complicated journey of exiting a difficult romance and the myriad joys of being in jobs that we love. Nando also shared a hilarious tale about the interplay between his two pet birds that proves male-female posturing in relationships happens among the animal set too.

Movado treated all attendees to a fabulous gift — a watch from their colorful ESQ ONE collection. I opted for a classic white timepiece which I am loving. Thank you, Movado!

Tres Chic: Movado's ESQONE timepiece

Tres Chic: Movado’s ESQONE timepiece

I also had the pleasure of chatting briefly with co-author Jeff, who shared that a chance meeting with Andrea at a writers’ conference sparked the initial idea for them to pen a book together.

I’m only a few chapters into it, and I have to say it is the best kind of dating advice book — smart, funny and full of common sense advice. Jeff and Andrea play well off each other, especially since they are coming from different vantage points: she’s married, he’s single. One of my favorite quotes so far from Jeff has to do with the question of who pays on a first date:

“The guy who doesn’t pay isn’t some daring, trailblazing pioneer for women’s rights; he’s just cheap.”

Well said.

| Andrea Syrtash, dating advice, dating bloggers, dating rules

Sponsored Post: Stir Up Your Dating Life With Match.com

August 7th, 2012 — 2:09pm

Friday night, my friend BrainyPintsizer and I headed over to The Terrace Club in Midtown for Match.com’s Mix Up Your Dating life party with Single Edition Media.

The fun and fabulous crowd of bloggers

The event attracted some of my favorite superstar bloggers and fellow Single Edition members – including , Jess Downey, Sex, Lies & Bacon’s Melysa Schmidt, ’s CeCa Olisa, Bad Online Dates’ Jennifer Kelton, SingleMamaNYC’s Issa Mas and Funky Brown Chick’s Twanna Hines and eFlirtExpert’s Laurie Davis.

All smiles with eFlirtexpert's Laurie Davis

While enjoying cocktails and hors d’oeuvres – along with great views of Rockefeller Center and St. Patrick’s Cathedral – we got the scoop on Match.com’s new . The site’s relationship expert Whitney Casey introduced events director Nuveen, who talked about how Stir is bridging the gap between online and offline connecting.

Match.com Relationship Expert Whitney Casey welcomed the crowd

I wasn’t surprised to hear Nuveen say that several Stir guests have connected with individuals they never would have glanced at twice online. I experienced that when I attended a Stir happy hour at Butter Restaurant in NoHo a few months ago – and ended up chatting (and then going out with) a guy who didn’t fit my usual ‘type.’

Readers of this blog know I’m a big believer in stepping away from the computer and meeting people through common interests and fun activities. Match’s Stir events help singles do just that, with everything from cooking classes and rock climbing to dance lessons and tequila tastings. And no need to worry about lopsided age or male/female ratios — each event is customized through the site’s matching algorithms so you’re attending events with like-minded singles.

Happy Hour events are free and open to both registered and subscribed Match.com members — members can also bring friends to happy hours — while the interest-based events are only offered to Match.com subscribers at a fee. Match.com members can learn about and sign up for these events via Match.com under the Events header on the site.

The Stir initiative is rapidly expanding – this month alone, Match is hosting nearly 200 events in more than 62 markets across the country. I’ll be attending another Stir event soon, watch this space for an inside report.

I’m also excited to announce that Match.com is giving away free subscriptions to three lucky Single Gal In The City readers! To enter the giveaway, post a comment below no later August 29th answering the following question: what’s your favorite way to stir up your love life?

| dating bloggers, Match.com, online dating, singles events

New Book And Giveaway: The Gaggle Approach To Dating

June 18th, 2012 — 7:14pm

It’s a question all of us single gals have asked at one time or another — where are all the single, available men? Well, what if your existing social circle held the answer to that question? This is the premise of (Simon & Schuster), a new book by Jessica Massa, co-creator of the acclaimed website WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!

Based on in-depth interviews with young women and men across the U.S., the book is a how-to guide for navigating your love life in what Massa describes as a “post-dating world.” It talks a lot about how technology has changed the dating landscape – and how the Gaggle concept can help women take charge of their romantic fate.

So what exactly is the gaggle? Massa and her best-friend-turned-business-partner Rebecca Wiegand coined the term to describe the collection of guys in every woman’s life.

“Your gaggle is the group of guys in your life who you might not be “dating,” but who play different roles, fulfill different needs, and help you to figure out who you are and what kind of guy and relationship you ultimately want,” says Massa. “These guys are all around you, once you open your eyes to them! There are ten types of guys who might be in your gaggle at any moment (for a list of all ten types).”

Massa adds that the gaggle approach is easy to adopt – it’s simply a matter of shifting how you think about the men you know, and the new men you’re meeting every day.

“Women don’t need to learn any tricks or memorize any rules,” she says. “They just need to start recognizing that all the ambiguous, not-quite-romantic-but-not-quite-platonic relationships that they have with men mean something.”

You can read an excerpt of The Gaggle . Even better, I’ve got a copy to give away to one lucky Single Gal In The City reader! Post a comment below by Friday June 22nd and tell me what you think about the Gaggle concept, and you’ll be automatically entered to win!

| dating advice, dating bloggers, dating dos and don'ts

Varying The Recipe Of SGITC

May 9th, 2012 — 2:25pm

As someone who’s been blogging for nearly four years – and has just started volume #99 of my handwritten journal – I often get asked this question: do I ever run out of things to write about? The obvious answer, of course, is no. And that’s most because of writing about what’s nearest and dearest to me.

When I first started Single Gal In The City, it was with the intention of sharing not just my dating adventures but the adventure of life here in the Big Apple. It is that adventure, together with some newfound passions, which you can expect to see more of from now on.

One of those passions is cooking. A New Year’s resolution in 2011 to use my kitchen for more than microwaving has evolved into something I enjoy doing on a fairly regular basis – so much so that I briefly created a blog about it. Maintaining two blogs along with my day job of PR (and writing for two other websites) became too much to juggle, so The Neophyte Chef became an unfortunate casualty. But since my culinary journey is one I’m still very much enjoying, I’m going to incorporate it into SGITC.

Will I continue sharing my take and experiences about dating and relationships? Absolutely. But my little piece of the blogosphere is also going to reflect many other areas of interest. Hope you’ll join me for the fun!

| cooking, dating bloggers

The Dating Blogger’s Dilemma

February 9th, 2012 — 9:58pm

 Yesterday, a friend of mine raised the question that pretty much every dating blogger asks herself at some point – is writing about my love life actually keeping me single? It’s a question that’s come up quite a bit lately, since I announced my adventure.

Two bachelor candidates that friends wanted to set me up with balked upon discovering I have a blog. Though I can certainly appreciate and understand being a private person, I can’t help also noticing how different the reaction was from men I met during my Great Dating Blitz. All of the bachelors in the eight cities I visited knew about SingleGalNYC.com and didn’t hesitate to meet with me and be themselves when we went out.

With that openness came an implicit understanding, I think, that I would be respectful in what I wrote — and keep identifying details pretty general so that their privacy would be maintained. Here in New York, where being guarded and suspicious is second nature, even reassurances to keep things anonymous (or even off the blog entirely) isn’t enough for some.

Perhaps the most frustrating recent example – a guy I connected with during the tail end of a girls night out. We clicked immediately.

“It figures I haven’t met anyone I wanted to go home with tonight…until now,” he said flirtatiously.

He gave me his business card, and kissed me on the cheek when he put me in a cab before heading off with friends. When I emailed him to suggest drinks, he responded—

“I sincerely apologize if my European heritage/behavior sent mixed messages, however I am not looking for dating. Believe me, if I were, those piercing blue eyes of yours, charming smile and great stories would have me flinging myself at you. But if my gallant efforts were to be successful that might put ruin to your blogging career… at least in its current incarnation. I would hate to be responsible for you looking for a new URL.”

Now, of course, he might genuinely just not be interested. Call me crazy, though, but his ‘mixed message’ seemed to continue in the above missive – with the underlying one being the blog is what turned him off.

People often say that meeting someone will mean the end of my blogging career.  These people aren’t writers. Because, as I told Mr. European, writers always have something to say – it’s simply in our DNA. I know this for sure – I’m about to finish handwritten journal #98.

As for whether having the subject of my blog be singlehood is a deterrent to finding Mr. Right, I’m not so sure about that. For all of the gun-shy guys out there, I’ve also dated some that have had no problem with being part of my little corner of cyberspace. Like adorable PR executive E, who smiled sweetly at my online accounts of our first few dates. Or hunky cop Rich, who not only didn’t mind the blog but gladly brainstormed ideas for future posts.

Bottom line – they both understood that writing is a huge part of who I am. The right guy will too.

| dating bloggers, Nominate A Date, The Great Dating Blitz

Valentine’s Day Giveaways: Gossip Girl Tour & Prizes Galore From Dating Dad

February 6th, 2012 — 9:45pm

Single or not, I’ve always been a big fan of Valentine’s Day. If you look at the occasion more broadly than greeting card companies or popular media does, it’s an opportunity to celebrate love in all forms – and that includes pampering yourself too. And what better way to do that than with a girls day out?

On Location Tours is offering the perfect way to have fun with a galpal – two free tickets to their fantastic around NYC. The tour takes you on dozens of locations featured in the popular TV series, from Blair Waldorf’s apartment building to Gilt, the swanky restaurant where (among other key GG moments) Chuck tried to win Serena’s affection with a special-ordered grilled cheese sandwich with truffle oil.

Share the YouTube link (above) for Nominate A Date to be entered to win!

To be entered to win, all you have to do is share to my YouTube video for Nominate A Date – either on Twitter (hashtag: #NominateADate) or via Facebook ( and tag my full name: Melissa Braverman) in your post. The winner will be announced right here on, yes, February 14th!

Speaking of fabulous giveaways, Daniel Ruyter — one of my favorite dating and relationship writers — is hosting one on his site, Memoirs of A Single Dad. All you have to do is share your best (or worst) dating story for a chance to win $500 in prizes! Among the items up for grabs: a free six-month membership to eHarmony.com, $100 in (Paypal) cash and a personally autographed copy of Daniel’s book, Memoirs of a Dating Dad.

All you have to do to enter is submit your story here. Winners — determined by stories that receive the most ‘votes’ (i.e. Tweets, Facebook shares, etc.) – will be announced on February 15th, 2012. And yes, full disclosure here, I’ve already entered myself! Click here to read about my best first date ever!

| dating bloggers, Gossip Girl, Nominate A Date, On Location Tours, Valentine's Day, YouTube

Bloggers Night Out

October 23rd, 2011 — 3:07pm

It’s been an action-packed week — with multiple events that have provided much-needed distractions from work craziness and dating doldrums.

The post-nine to five fun kicked off Tuesday, with Single Edition Media’s Bloggers Break-Night Out at Rare hair salon in Tribeca. While sipping some delicious pisco cocktails, I joined a few dozen fabulous fellow bloggers – including Jess Downey, Taylor Cast and Liza of Off Market Girl – in watching Rare’s talented team transform @nesbizzle.

Hair care 101: Nicole Nesbitt (a.k.a nesbizzle) gets primped by the stylists at Rare during a demo at Bloggers Break-Night Out

Liza told me what she doesn’t miss about being in single in her native South Carolina (the trend of going from college to marriage), while Single Edition founder Sherri Langburt told everyone about all of the company’s resources available to bloggers. Members of Single Edition’s have access to workshops in advertising, PR and media training, not to mention plenty of fabulous networking opportunities. It’s a great community to be a part of, so if you’re a single blogger, check it out.

Sherri talked about how much the network has grown since launching about a year ago, with big brands finally beginning to recognize that single consumers are just as valuable as any other demographic.

The event’s yummy sponsors clearly know that. Rustic Crust teamed up with American Flatbread to serve delicious pizzas that tasted anything but pre-made. Antioxidant-loaded energy drink Bai offered a boost with samples of three different flavors (peach was my favorite).

Up next…inside Urban Girl Squad’s latest mingling event and a college mini-reunion to remember.

| dating bloggers, Girls Night Out, SingleEdition.com

Tonight: Single Edition Radio And Solo Travel

March 9th, 2011 — 2:27pm

Single Edition, the premier lifestyle website for singles, has an exciting new radio show — and tonight I’m going to be a part of it!

Airing every Wednesday at 9pm, the hour-long program is co-hosted by SingleEdition.com founder Sherri Langburt and blogger Simone Grant. Tonight’s show will focus on singles travel. Also joining me on air will be Jennifer Kelton, CEO of BadOnlineDates.com.

for more info and details on how to tune in online. Have any questions or insights about traveling solo? Give us call tonight at 612-293-4262. See you on the airwaves!

| dating bloggers, radio shows, Sherri Langburt, Simone Grant, SingleEdition.com

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