Category: Lower East Side


BetaDater: A Singles Mixer With A Twist

June 16th, 2013 — 9:08pm

As a dating blogger, you tend to hear a lot about singles events – whether they’re mixers designed for mingling or functions related to improving your dating game. BetaDater offers both.

BetaDater is a feedback-based dating mixer. Over the course of three dates and a three course meal, you receive and give three pieces of feedback that are anonymized and aggregated into what they a call a Dating Diagnostic Report. After successfully piloting in San Francisco, BetaDater has come to NYC. Thursday night, I was invited to check it out.

BetaDater: A new feedback-based approach to mingling

BetaDater: A new feedback-based approach to mingling

The event was held at Tromba Restaurant, a cozy eatery with a rustic vibe on NYC’s Lower East Side. My three dates were a mixed bag — the result, no doubt, of BetaDater’s big age range (21-40).

First up, a thirty something software developer and NYC newcomer who avoided eye contact and had me doing most of the conversational heavy lifting. Then, a handsome, charming former journalist turned non-profit think tank manage – who was two days away from moving back to Geneva. And finally, a recent college graduate with (yikes) bad body odor and a penchant for four-letter words.

Though the event was supposed to last for two hours, it ended up running closer to three. Not surprisingly, I felt like I was running out of steam and sparkling conversation toward the end. This could easily be avoided if BetaDater kept things moving along — and increased the number of dates.

Having done speed dating a handful of times, I know from experience that it doesn’t take long to form a first impression about someone. While four minutes is too brief to provide effective feedback on a person’s first date skills, 30 minutes plus is way too long.

I think BetaDater would benefit from doing shorter dates and more of them in one evening. It also needs to reach more people. Apparently, several of the guys in attendance were pulled in last minute from a neighboring bar. A more targeted age range and larger number of dates would likely make the events more well attended.

Having said all this, BetaDater brings something fresh and valuable to the dating scene. Even while the kinks are still being ironed out, it helps you put your best foot forward on a first date.

My experience the other night also reminded me that New York is a city which inspires hope when it comes to being single­. Two of the guys I met said they moved here because of NYC’s many  opportunities to connect with new people. You never know when one of those connections is going to be of the romantic variety.

| dating in New York, Lower East Side, singles events, speed dating

Girls Night Out: Lower East Side

December 10th, 2011 — 7:21pm

Thursday night, I headed down to the Lower East Side with my friend Natalie for a Blackbook Magazine party at swanky hotspot Ludlow Manor.

The event featured cute bartenders, a variety of vodka cocktails – including a chocolate raspberry mango concoction (jury’s still out on that one) – and a flip video booth where you could dress up in flapper style or holiday garb.

Natalie and me at Ludlow Manor

As Natalie and I took in the crowd of pretty people, we talked about favorite dishes to cook at home and how second dates are sometimes more nerve-wracking than first ones. Speaking of dating, the subject of single gal came up. Sporty made headlines this week for revealing that she spent a month targeting Match.com bachelors who would pay for dinner so she could save money.

Of course, Good Morning America and the other news shows that covered her story played up the golddigging angle. While I don’t subscribe to the notion of going out strictly for a free meal, I agree with Jessica’s sentiment that a guy can and should pay on the first date – and I appreciated her willingness to make no apologies for it.

In this day and age, the lines between romance and modern mores have become increasingly blurred. Women feel guilty for wanting to be courted. Men worry about being perceived as questioning a woman’s independence. The end result?

I miss dating in the 90’s.

As I told Natalie the other night and at the risk of sounding like an old fogey, dating in that decade required a lot less second guessing than it does today. If a man was single in his thirties or forties, you didn’t have to wonder if it was because he was resisting commitment at all costs. And if you wanted to get to know someone, you actually picked up the phone between dates and had a conversation — a nicety that seems to have gone by the wayside in this era of texting, email, etc.

Bottom line — there’s something to be said for dating old school style. As one of my Twitter followers @Gabdate said–

“If enough of us start going old school, we will bring it back. You just watch.”

Sounds good to me. Who’s with us?

| Girls Night Out, Lower East Side, Match.com, online dating

Singles Event Pick: Most Eligible Bachelorettes

October 18th, 2011 — 4:22pm

Matchmaker Nancy Slotnick

Renowned matchmaker and dating expert Nancy Slotnick is looking for a few good women – 100 to be exact.

Tuesday nights this fall, Nancy will be guest bartending at Lina Frey on NYC’s Lower East Side, seeking what she describes as the ‘Holy Grail’ of what men want—

“Smart, savvy girls who are also hot.”

The top 100 winners of the contest will be announced at the end of 2011 and receive one year of free membership on her new site Matchmaker Café. There’s no charge to apply, and Nancy will be offering free dating advice to attendees. And if you’re not single (or not a girl), come and nominate your unattached girlfriends.

The weekly event kicks off tonight, and runs from 7-11pm.

| dating coaches, Lower East Side, matchmakers, singles events

Charitable Event Pick: Sizzlin’ Summer Rooftop BBQ

July 27th, 2011 — 8:12am

It’s no secret NYC is scorching in summer – what better way to make the best of it than at a rooftop party for a good cause?

Tonight, Party4ACause presents A Sizzlin’ Summer Rooftop BBQ, a benefit for The Children’s Cancer & Blood Foundation. Based in New York, the CCBF is the oldest and largest charitable US organization   dedicated to the care of children with cancer and blood disorders.

The Delancey Rooftop is where you can enjoy BBQ for a good cause on July 27th

The party will take place from 7-10pm at The Delancey Hotel’s rooftop lounge. Along with burgers and hot dogs, guests will enjoy specialty spiced drinks by Prometheus Springs, sweet treats by Little Miss Cake Company, shaved ice creations from Wooly’s Ice, and mini-cupcakes from Baked by Melissa (ahem, not me). Also on the menu —  a silent auction and raffle featuring packages from Veev Spirits, Vineyard Vines, Wine, Cigars, Wildfox Clothing, Restaurant Gift Certificates and a bag from designer Tory Burch.

Admission with cash bar is $30 (food and drinks specials included) or  $60 with open bar. Click here to book.

| charitable events, hotel bars, Lower East Side, rooftop bars

Catching Up With A West Coast Friend

July 11th, 2011 — 11:54am

Girls Night Out: Kim and me on the LES

Last week, I had the pleasure of catching up twice with San Francisco-based galpal and former PR colleague Kim.

Wednesday night, I joined Kim and handful of her friends for drinks down at Hotel Chantelle on NYC’s Lower East Side.  My night was made when I got carded by the genial bartender.

“Do you card all the ladies just to make us smile?” I asked.

“To avoid a $3,000 fine,” he answered without missing a beat. “And, of course, to make the ladies smile.”

The next day, over a delicious lunch at Ko Sushi on the UES, Kim and I talked about the absence of courtly behavior these days and her decision to get back into online dating – only this time with a different strategy.

“I’ve decided to be more proactive rather than reactive,” she said.

“Spoken like a fellow publicist,” I joked, since those are the same adjectives we use to describe tactics in PR.

Kim and I also mused about potential destinations we would consider moving to someday. Though still a great fan of the Big Apple, Kim admitted she never considered it a long-term home. As she said that, it hit me that – until recently – I never considered it anything else. Dreams change, though, so I’m open to wherever the next great opportunity takes me. Wonder where and what that will be?

| girl talk, Lower East Side, Upper East Side restaurants

Charitable Event Pick: Art for NYC Mixer

January 8th, 2011 — 11:37am

This Tuesday, you can bid on masterpieces and mingle for a worthy cause at Art for NYC’s fundraiser benefiting Coalition for the Homeless.

Katra: Art for NYC's event will take place this Moroccan-themed lounge

Set for 7pm at Katra Lounge on NYC’s Lower East Side, the event will feature DJ music, wine bar from 7-8pm and art for sale by silent auction by more than a dozen different artists.

Tickets are $25 in advance, $30 at the door. Click here to book or go to the event’s for more info.

| charitable events, Lower East Side

Singles Event Pick: New Year’s At R-Bar

December 18th, 2010 — 6:09pm


With 2011 is only a few weeks away, now’s the time to plan how you’re ringing it in. One great option — Single And The City’s Burlesque-style New Year’s Eve bash.

The popular event, which sold out last year, will take place at R-Bar in NYC’s Lower East Side and feature hors d’oeuvres, icebreakers, DJ dancing all night and performances by renowned burlesque troop The Rhinestone Follies. Doors open at 8pm and ticket price also includes Champagne toast at midnight. Dress to impress.

Early bird admission is $50 — a bargain for NYE in NYC — but only if you book by Tuesday December 21st. to RSVP.

| Lower East Side, New Year's Eve, singles events, singles parties

Return To Speed Dating

October 8th, 2009 — 9:30pm

This weekend — for the first time in about two years — I’ll be taking part in a speed dating event. When I signed up last night, I couldn’t help thinking about my past experience with this popular mechanism for mingling.

The Delancey Rooftop Bar: Sunday’s speed dating party will take place at this cozy Lower East Side venue

My inaugural outing with industry leader HurryDate produced four first dates and a five-month relationship with a well-intentioned but clingy Brit. Along with his warp speed wooing, he left an impression for something much less romantic – being uncontrollably gassy. He regularly referred to himself as my “Flatulent Prince.”

Then, there was the angry, tall guy whose opening gambit left little to the imagination.

“I’m 37, Asian and recently divorced – how the hell are you?”

Charming.

On my last speed dating go round, I rediscovered what a small world New York can be for a city with more than 8 million people. Of the dozen or so guys in attendance, two were repeats – one from a previous event, the other being a guy I’d gone out with once through a dating site.

Yes, sometimes it can feel like the Big Apple is pretty small when it comes to the finite universe of available single men here. Which is why it’s fun to shake things up and go on a one-night dating blitz.

Care to join me at Sunday’s speed dating party? Admission is $15, click to reserve a spot.

| HurryDate, Lower East Side, singles events, speed dating, The Big Apple, The Delancey Rooftop Bar

Return To Speed Dating

October 8th, 2009 — 4:30pm

This weekend — for the first time in about two years — I’ll be taking part in a speed dating event. When I signed up last night, I couldn’t help thinking about my past experience with this popular mechanism for mingling.

The Delancey Rooftop Bar: Sunday’s speed dating party will take place at this cozy Lower East Side venue

My inaugural outing with industry leader HurryDate produced four first dates and a five-month relationship with a well-intentioned but clingy Brit. Along with his warp speed wooing, he left an impression for something much less romantic – being uncontrollably gassy. He regularly referred to himself as my “Flatulent Prince.”

Then, there was the angry, tall guy whose opening gambit left little to the imagination.

“I’m 37, Asian and recently divorced – how the hell are you?”

Charming.

On my last speed dating go round, I rediscovered what a small world New York can be for a city with more than 8 million people. Of the dozen or so guys in attendance, two were repeats – one from a previous event, the other being a guy I’d gone out with once through a dating site.

Yes, sometimes it can feel like the Big Apple is pretty small when it comes to the finite universe of available single men here. Which is why it’s fun to shake things up and go on a one-night dating blitz.

Care to join me at Sunday’s speed dating party? Admission is $15, click to reserve a spot.

| HurryDate, Lower East Side, singles events, speed dating, The Big Apple, The Delancey Rooftop Bar

Friday Fun On The LES: Part Two

March 24th, 2009 — 12:21am

Friday night, the celebration of work galpal Katie’s move to the burbs continued at Boss Tweed’s Saloon on the Lower East Side.

Katie and me enjoying cocktails at Boss Tweed’s on the LES

We opted to skip the beer pong and concentrate on enjoying the action-packed crowd, which included about a dozen of us.

Conversation quickly turned to the evening’s main attraction — the mechanical bull at another LES nightspot, . By the time we got there, I was more than a little anxious about climbing aboard. Especially when I had to sign a waiver and present my ID to the very menacing bull operator.

Yikes: Getting ready to ride at Mason Dixon’s

Katie, a mechanical bull veteran, advised me that the best way to avoid injury is to just go with the inevitable fall when it starts. I kept her wise words in mind as I entered the bullpen.

With the supportive cheers and applause of friends and strangers alike, I straddled the mechanical bull and hoped for the best.

$5 well spent: Riding the bull. Yee hah!

Though I didn’t feel unleashed like Miranda on “Sex And The City” (nor did I feel inclined to rip open my top), I enjoyed my 20 seconds or so of writhing around. And the fall on my rear end was only marginally terrifying. The ride was also a great mini workout, as I discovered from the burning sensation in my thighs afterward.

Katie, roommates Beth and Jon, and former Quinn & Co. staffer Juliann all took turns riding the bull before we decided to move onto the next destination, Piano’s.

It turned out the bar had reached capacity and was only admitting women. Contemplating the favorable guy-girl ratio inside, I was thisclose to parting company from Katie & Co. I chose instead to head back with everyone to Katie’s abode, where she filled me in about her long history with boyfriend Connor, who she’ll soon be residing with in Connecticut.

Their parents are good friends and it was love at first sight for Katie when she met Connor at the age of 15. A few years later, when she finally professed her feelings, he responded with a kiss. And, a long distance scenario notwithstanding (Katie lived in Florida for awhile), that was that.

As Katie gushed about her beloved beau, I couldn’t help thinking about the fickle finger of fate — how some people find happily ever after straight out of the gate, while the rest of us end up taking more than a few detours to get there.

Despite the seeming randomness of it all, I took great comfort in Katie’s tale. It reminded me of the times that I’ve felt head over heels — and how much I’m looking forward to the day when I feel that way again.

| Boss Tweed's, love at first sight, Lower East Side, Mason Dixon's, Sex and The City

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