Category: following your bliss


Does Everything Really Happen For A Reason?

April 22nd, 2014 — 7:51pm

It is often said that everything happens for a reason. When you’re navigating the unpredictable landscape of 40+ singlehood, this saying is more than a little hard to digest. But maybe there’s some truth to it after all—a comforting thought that occurs me to when I think about the winding road of my career.

Many moons ago, I started out in journalism. Temping as an administrative assistant for a division of Thomson Financial led to a permanent gig at one of their publications—and a reporter position eventually followed.

After making the leap to TV news (and doing small town stints in Maine, Illinois and Delaware), I took a break to get my master’s degree. One of my classmates worked for Fox News, and she secured me the interview that got me a job at the network.

When I was contemplating my next career reincarnation, I reached out to fellow journalism school alum and New York Travel Correspondent Valarie D’Elia. A freelance gig writing for her website TravelWithVal inspired me to go into travel PR. Val connected me with Quinn & Co., which became my professional home for more than five years.

It was during this time that I had the pleasure of working with PR maven Jennifer Maguire Coughlin, who was with the agency representing the Bahamas, where one of my resort clients was located. In 2012, Jen included me on an email blast she sent out that Starwood Hotels was looking for a Marketing Manager.

Jen and me at one of Starwood Preferred Guest (SPG)'s fantastic member events (September 2013)

Jen and me at one of Starwood Preferred Guest (SPG)’s fantastic member events (September 2013)

As I’ve said to Jen many times since, she was literally my fairy jobmother. I have the good fortune of working with her again because she provides PR support for the two hotels I work for. If that isn’t full circle serendipity, I don’t know what is.

When I look back at my career, all the circuitous turns that didn’t make sense then make perfect sense now. I’ve never been more fulfilled job wise and I feel like everything I’ve done has prepared me for what I do with my workday. Like I am right where I’m supposed to be in my career.

How nice to think it’s possible I will someday be able to say the same thing about my love life.

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Paper Magazine’s Rooftop Party

February 24th, 2011 — 3:04pm

Last week, I headed over to the Empire Hotel on NYC’s Upper West Side for Paper Magazine and Tumblr’s Fashion Week soiree.

Held at the hotel’s spacious, swanky rooftop bar, the party gave me a chance to catch up with friend and fellow blogger, Giuseppe, in town from Sydney.

Catching Up: Giuseppe and me at the Empire rooftop

Giuseppe and I first connected a few years back, at the DVD launch of the first Sex And The City movie. His fabulous Cosmo Guy site about SATC has led to great success as a fashion blogger — Giuseppe was among a select few flown from Oz to cover various runway shows.

Over cocktails, we talked about the excitement and allure of New York (Giuseppe and his sweetheart are considering a move here). I admitted that, for as much as I still adore my hometown, all the traveling I’ve done over the last year has made me realize there’s much more to life than hustle and bustle.

Following your bliss, of course, is a big part of that, a subject that came up when we ran into Xavi, a friend of Giuseppe’s.

A native of Barcelona, Xavi told us about a chance encounter long ago on the subway with one of his favorite Spanish writers. That meeting produced an opportunity which eventually led to Xavi handling social media for one of pop biggest international superstars. If you believe and are willing to work hard, he said, everything is possible.

Good advice in both life — and love.

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A DWTS Journey To Remember

November 24th, 2010 — 4:36pm

Like millions of other “Dancing With The Stars” fans, I tuned in last night to see Jennifer Grey deservedly win the show’s coveted mirrorball trophy. As I watched, I couldn’t help thinking how Jennifer’s journey to ballroom greatness is a wonderful reminder that it’s never too late to pursue what makes you happy.

Victory Lap: Jennifer Grey and the DWTS mirrorball trophy (photo courtesy: Getty Images)

During a TV interview right after her big moment, Jennifer herself said this—

“If there’s something that makes your heart sing, don’t give up on it.”

Over nearly three months of competition, despite physical ailments and dance-related injuries, the beloved actress never gave up. At 50, she rocked it out with the same exuberance and spirit that she had when she captured hearts as Baby in “Dirty Dancing” more two decades ago.

I think this kind of resolve makes all the difference when it comes not only to following your bliss but finding lasting love.

Throughout the season on DWTS, Jennifer’s wildly supportive husband and daughter were front and center cheering her on.

“I blew out the candles on my 40th birthday as a single woman,” Jennifer told US Weekly. “But I never lost hope.”

In a day and age where popular culture says a woman has a limited shelf life when it come to marital eligibility, it’s easy to find your hope faltering at times. But, just like there’s no age limit to looking fit and fabulous – again, kudos to Jennifer here! – there’s no expiration date for meeting the right person.

Rock on, Baby.

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BlogHer ’10: Day One Part Two

August 8th, 2010 — 4:52pm

Friday afternoon, I experienced the best part of going to BlogHer ‘10 — connecting with smart, amazing women who inspire and energize you. During the Birds of A Feather lunch for like-minded bloggers, I had the pleasure of getting to know a handful of these ladies.

BlogHer ‘10: Life Well Said -- the perfect tagline for this great event

Lifestyle and entertainment blogger Megan of Megan’s Minute and I talked about dating and how, sometimes, you just need a break from it.

Twentysomething single gal Elizabeth of Just A Girl In The World shared her take on being unattached in Nashville. As she spoke of being surrounded by married friends, I was reminded of hearing that during my Great Dating Blitz from women across the country, and how it tends to make you feel pressure to settle down.

I joined Suzanne of Late Bloomer Bride in encouraging Elizabeth to enjoy the freedom and exploration that’s so much a part of your twenties. Suzanne, who married after 40 and writes with humor and honesty about it, talked about the wisdom of doing away with a checklist for Mr. Right.

“You don’t marry a set of characteristics and attributes,” she said. “You’ve got to feel that chemistry, that connection.”

Fast Friends: Emma and I also met up at one of BlogHer’s fun closing parties

LA-based Emma of and I talked about the long and winding road of career changes and finding your bliss. From writing for TV to designing jewelry, Emma has followed her creativity wherever it’s taken her. We both agreed that it takes awhile to realize that who you are isn’t defined by your job or relationship status — and that once you do, it feels like a new beginning.

Already looking forward to BlogHer ‘11 in San Diego!

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Following Your Bliss: Take Two

June 30th, 2009 — 9:36pm

Last summer, I did a blog post about following your bliss prompted by the departure of three Quinn & Co. colleagues who left to pursue new paths. With a new trifecta of co-workers taking their final bows, I can’t help revisiting the subject — and thinking about what it means during these tough economic times.

Following Their Bliss: (from left) Allie, Alexis and Eileen with me at Q&C
Two of the exiting Quinnsters have an idea of where they’re headed next. Spunky social media maven Allie is returning to Texas to concentrate on digital PR (and reunite with her beau). Five-year Q&C veteran Eileen will be transferring her signature warmth and nurturing style to a career in education.

Alexis, the third to leave the fold, is doing something many would consider radical in a recession – taking the summer off to do some soul searching and figure out where exactly her bliss lies. With her attention to detail and true team spirit, I have no doubt she’ll be fabulous wherever she ends up.

Each of these bright and beautiful twentysomethings are inspiring examples that the sky’s the limit when you’re being true to yourself. Recession or not, that’s a lesson always worth remembering.

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Following Your Bliss: Take Two

June 30th, 2009 — 4:36pm

Last summer, I did a blog post about following your bliss prompted by the departure of three Quinn & Co. colleagues who left to pursue new paths. With a new trifecta of co-workers taking their final bows, I can’t help revisiting the subject — and thinking about what it means during these tough economic times.

Following Their Bliss: (from left) Allie, Alexis and Eileen with me at Q&C
Two of the exiting Quinnsters have an idea of where they’re headed next. Spunky social media maven Allie is returning to Texas to concentrate on digital PR (and reunite with her beau). Five-year Q&C veteran Eileen will be transferring her signature warmth and nurturing style to a career in education.

Alexis, the third to leave the fold, is doing something many would consider radical in a recession – taking the summer off to do some soul searching and figure out where exactly her bliss lies. With her attention to detail and true team spirit, I have no doubt she’ll be fabulous wherever she ends up.

Each of these bright and beautiful twentysomethings are inspiring examples that the sky’s the limit when you’re being true to yourself. Recession or not, that’s a lesson always worth remembering.

| following your bliss, pursuing a new career, , social media

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