Category: singles events

May 4th, 2014 — 8:56pm

One of my dating resolutions this year was to declare a moratorium on going to singles events. Friday night, I was reminded of the many reasons why.

A good friend of mine asked me to join her at a 40+ singles mixer. As she hadn’t been to one in a while, I gladly obliged, telling myself I was going strictly to be a supportive friend. Of course, despite my prior experience with these things, a small part of myself couldn’t help thinking—maybe this one will be different.

The venue (Pranna in NYC’s Flatiron District) and price point ($20) were both great. The crowd that turned up?

Not so much.

Pranna in NYC’s Flatiron District

Simply put, the event was a perfect microcosm of what makes dating in New York so frustrating. Women far outnumbered the men. We were also the ones who were obviously expected to do the heavy lifting.

Over and over again, I watched women approach men as said men either stood idly by waiting for that to happen or looked down at their phones. Though everyone received a list of mostly odd icebreaker questions (“have you ever cried in a movie theater?”), it was only the women in attendance fast and furiously working the room with it.

My friend wryly observed that the entire scene felt like a repeat of awkward high school dances. I said this was decidedly worse. At least in high school, guys eventually stepped up to the plate and took some initiative. Yes, I know times have changed, women feel empowered to make the first move and are more independently minded, etc. etc. But I can’t help wondering, at what cost? Has all of this progress come at the expense of good old fashioned romance?

As Savvy Auntie Founder Melanie Notkin writes in her fantastic memoir , men mistakenly assume that our more equal footing in the workplace means we’ve somehow lost our femininity when it comes to dating and relationships. News flash—we haven’t. We still want you to plan a first date (maybe even a second one too).  We still need to be courted (instead of being asked from day one, ‘what do you want to do tonight?’). None of the rewritten rules have changed any of that.

As for singles mixers like the one I just went to, I have another pet peeve: no free cocktails. Considering how much work it takes to mingle these days, $20 should at the very least cover a shot of liquid courage.

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February 9th, 2014 — 3:28pm

Valentine’s Day isn’t just for the coupled up set. It’s an occasion for celebrating all the love in your life – and, if you’re single of course, getting out there and having some fun. Two NYC events are offering the chance to mingle on February 14th.

Singles Parties NYC is hosting what it’s calling “The Largest Valentine’s Singles Party.” Get your flirt on from 10pm-2am on Friday at popular 80’s nightclub Culture Club.

Get your flirt on 80s hotspot Culture Club (photo courtesy:

The venue has been reserved exclusively for the party, so everyone there will be unattached. Drink specials include $5 beer, wine and well drinks til midnight. Ladies, use promo code VDAYLADIES to pay only $10 for your ticket. Gents, use promo code VDAYGENTS to pay only $20 for your ticket. For more info and tickets, .

Looking for something more intimate and chic? Head on down to at .

Bar 7even 5ive at Andaz Wall Street is playing Cupid

From 8 pm – midnight, the bar will have its very own “Cocktail Cupid” serving the night’s signature drink, The Wrecking Ball – comprised of strawberry simple syrup, Ketel One, fresh lime juice and champagne.

Guests that spot someone they like, can purchase The Wrecking Ball drink from the Cocktail Cupid, who will personally deliver it while discreetly pointing out who the admiring sender is. Connection Caddies will also be placed throughout the bar, filled with vintage valentines to fill out that the Cocktail Cupid can send with the drink.

To cap the night off, anyone who sends The Wrecking Ball to a crush will be automatically entered to win great prizes including a one-night stay at Andaz Wall Street with breakfast in bed, bar tab for the night to be on the house (up to $100) and a cooking lesson for two with the hotel’s Executive Chef, Victor Cruz.

How will you be celebrating Valentine’s Day? At the top of my February 14th to do list—making sure the people I love know how fortunate I feel to have them in my life.

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December 25th, 2013 — 2:09pm

Though there’s no shortage of ways to celebrate New Year’s in NYC, finding the right one isn’t always easy–especially if you don’t want to break the budget. Croton Lounge has a festive option for singles that’s not too pricey.

The Midtown venue is hosting a party for singles ages 20-early 40s. The event includes open bar from 7-8pm, DJ and dancing all night, ice breakers, prizes and a complimentary Champagne toast at midnight. Tickets are just $65 until Friday December 27th (regular price $100). to get tickets and use promo code NYE2014 to get $20 off the current price.

As for me, I’ll be spending this final December 31st of my thirties away from the hustle and bustle–with friends in New Jersey.

With the big 4-0 less than a month away, I want to ring in 2014 quietly taking stock of everything and everyone that has brought me to this milestone in my life. It’s definitely a time for counting my blessings, and I feel very thankful to say there’s a long list of them.

Merry Christmas!

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September 9th, 2013 — 9:11pm

Thursday, I headed down to Sen in NYC’s Flatiron district for a game night event.

Part of the website’s Stir series for singles, this one featured Spontuneous — a fun new game that that tests your recall of favorite songs. I had the chance to try it out at home with a girlfriend and we had a blast. Charming, cute Spontuneous founder Rob Ridgeway and The Bachelor’s AshLee Frazier were on hand to get the fun started.

(from left) Ashlee Frazier and Rob Ridgeway joined in for a round of Spontuneous

Within a few minutes of arriving, I spotted’s Lori Bizzoco and dating coach Tracey Steinberg. Tracey filled me in about her upcoming book release (watch this space for a review), while Lori mentioned her site’s new contributor, the awesome Yolanda Shoshana.

Lori and I also got to talking about dating. She shared that it wasn’t until years after she initially connected online with her husband that she gave him a chance. He proposed nine weeks later.

As I looked around the room at my fellow singles, I felt a weariness settle in — no doubt the result of having attended many similar events over the years. Even with a fun premise like game night, it doesn’t entirely mitigate the awkwardness of being in a room with strangers whose only commonality is their dating status.

And so, my latest resolution was decided: a much-needed break from singles events.  Meeting new people is a lot easier when it happens organically, through shared interests that have nothing to do with being unattached.

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August 18th, 2013 — 8:53pm

When it comes to online dating, I’m a big fan of anything that makes it easier to take the connection offline and in person.’s Stir events across the U.S. are geared toward this and now the website is adding a game night series to the mix.

Match has partnered with seven board game manufacturers to provide singles with a combination of icebreakers and party games. Having attended a few happy hour Stir events and been underwhelmed, I think this approach sounds more effective, not to mention a lot more fun. has launched a game night series of events (photo courtesy:

To make it easy to concentrate on mingling and enjoying the game, tables are set up in advance and include easy-to-read game instruction cards, so you don’t have to fumble around with lengthy, confusing directions.  facilitators lead singles through the games.

Players rotate from table to table between rounds, giving everyone a chance to mix and mingle while playing up to seven different games.  Attendees are also provided with a selection of games to play on their own as icebreakers, while connecting with other singles.

Game night events are taking place now through the fall at bars and restaurants in select cities including NYC. Stir events are open to members and their guests. I’m looking forward to checking out the September 5th outing featuring musical game Spontuneous. Stay tuned for a recap.

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June 16th, 2013 — 9:08pm

As a dating blogger, you tend to hear a lot about singles events – whether they’re mixers designed for mingling or functions related to improving your dating game. BetaDater offers both.

is a feedback-based dating mixer. Over the course of three dates and a three course meal, you receive and give three pieces of feedback that are anonymized and aggregated into what they a call a Dating Diagnostic Report. After successfully piloting in San Francisco, BetaDater has come to NYC. Thursday night, I was invited to check it out.

BetaDater: A new feedback-based approach to mingling

The event was held at , a cozy eatery with a rustic vibe on NYC’s Lower East Side. My three dates were a mixed bag — the result, no doubt, of BetaDater’s big age range (21-40).

First up, a thirty something software developer and NYC newcomer who avoided eye contact and had me doing most of the conversational heavy lifting. Then, a handsome, charming former journalist turned non-profit think tank manage – who was two days away from moving back to Geneva. And finally, a recent college graduate with (yikes) bad body odor and a penchant for four-letter words.

Though the event was supposed to last for two hours, it ended up running closer to three. Not surprisingly, I felt like I was running out of steam and sparkling conversation toward the end. This could easily be avoided if BetaDater kept things moving along — and increased the number of dates.

Having done speed dating a handful of times, I know from experience that it doesn’t take long to form a first impression about someone. While four minutes is too brief to provide effective feedback on a person’s first date skills, 30 minutes plus is way too long.

I think BetaDater would benefit from doing shorter dates and more of them in one evening. It also needs to reach more people. Apparently, several of the guys in attendance were pulled in last minute from a neighboring bar. A more targeted age range and larger number of dates would likely make the events more well attended.

Having said all this, BetaDater brings something fresh and valuable to the dating scene. Even while the kinks are still being ironed out, it helps you put your best foot forward on a first date.

My experience the other night also reminded me that New York is a city which inspires hope when it comes to being single­. Two of the guys I met said they moved here because of NYC’s many  opportunities to connect with new people. You never know when one of those connections is going to be of the romantic variety.

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January 23rd, 2013 — 9:12pm

Though I’ve officially exited the online dating universe, I know it’s the route of choice for many singles – and it never hurts to get a little guidance when navigating cyberspace romance. NYC tech retailer and iconic Apple Specialist Tekserve is offering some with Dating In The Digital Age.

Set for Saturday, February 9, 2013, the event will feature cocktails, an interactive workshop, musical guests, in-store shopping, and guest speakers. Among those scheduled to appear —

•    Bentely McBentelson (The Language of OkCupid), who will dissect the style and vocabulary of online dating sites, and give tips on how to optimize your profile to foster a digital love-match

•    Tekserve’s Director of Marketing, Jazmin Hupp (72 First Dates), sharing notes from her six-month dating experiment of 72 first dates
The best part — after the workshop, you can try your newfound dating swagger in a mixer.

Dating In The Digital Age will take place from 6-8pm at Tekserve on 119 West 23rd Street. Ticket prices are $20 or two for $35, and that includes two drinks (beer, soda, and wine) and a Tekserve store credit of $10 for singles and $20 for pairs. Visit to purchase tickets.

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November 8th, 2012 — 9:34pm

Some nights unfold so serendipitously, you couldn’t imagine planning them any better yourself. Last night was one of them.

My good friend C and I met up at Caffe Bene, a rare slice of authentic coffeehouse charm  in Times Square. We braved the frigid, snowy weather with the intent of heading to Reflections Yoga studio for an eye gazing party  — which is basically the zen version of speed dating: multiple 2 min rounds of staring at strangers minus any conversation.

We showed up to the tranquil, inviting space (soft lighting, spa music, hardwood floors, etc) ready to practice eye contact. Not surprisingly, the noreaster made it a pretty small crowd — small enough that the Reflections crew said the event would be postponed.

C and I were halfway out the door when they invited us to stay because two men had showed up. We looked at each other and then awkwardly at the guys before deciding to take off. As we approached the elevator, another, ahem, new age , looking guy walked by., brushed past us.

“I think I’ll pass on the warlock,” C quipped of his, the stranger’s long, wavy hair.

We both laughed, appreciating the comedy of our ill fated attempt to broaden our social, dating horizons. The question now was, where to go next?

The answer came quickly — from a most unexpected source.

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September 30th, 2012 — 10:27pm

Thursday night, I attended my second — a cooking-themed night at Kitchen in Midtown East.

While waiting for the doors to open, I chatted with four fellow single gals. As we watched the line grow with far more women than men, we wondered what we were in for. Thankfully, the ratio was much more balanced once the event started.

The crowd at's Stir event

With its soft lighting and cozy vibe, Kitchen provided an ideal backdrop for mingling. On the menu, a delicious selection of hors d’oeuvres (sliders, beef satay, curry meatballs) and open bar. I was a little disappointed that the extent of the cooking was limited to watching the chefs in an open kitchen. But that didn’t seem to impact the co-ed fraternizing.

I talked to four very different guys. Among them — an adorable New Jersey native and doting dad, and a former restaurant manager turned nursing student with a penchant for wine. Still, as the evening winded down, the only numbers I ended up exchanging were with the bachelorettes I met initially.

Bottom line — the Stir concept is a good one, but I think it’s more effective when you’re engaged in an activity instead of just at ye olde singles mixer. Next time, I’d like to try one of Match’s many interest-based Stir events — wine/tequila tastings, bowling and rock climbing among them.

FYI..Match’s large scale happy hour events are free and open to both registered and subscribed members, while more intimate interest-based events are only offered to subscribers at a fee. members can learn about and sign up for these events via under the “Events” header on the site.

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September 15th, 2012 — 6:19pm

One activity that’s been on my to do list for awhile is the urban scavenger hunt – especially after hearing my colleagues recently tell me what a great workout and team building exercise it is. Of course, it can also be a great way to meet people, so I was excited to hear about Stray Boots’ upcoming scavenger hunt.

Stray Boots' scavenger hunts take attendees on a fun adventure in NYC

On Saturday October 6th, the group is hosting the Midtown Showdown. Here’s how it works. Players receive challenges right on their cell phones that take them around an area of the city. Challenges involve answering trivia questions about NYC shops, restaurants and historic landmarks, taking photo ops, solving riddles and more.

At the Midtown Showdown, attendees will break up into teams and compete against one another while exploring some of the best sites in the Big Apple. This makes it easy to meet new people and break the ice in a fun, active way. Also a great date option too.

You can buy early bird tickets for just $14 through September 26th. Regular tickets are $18. For more info, visit .


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